Didn’t a huge percent of the population move away during COVID?

This comment made me laugh. We’re talking about actions we can take to feel safe in public transport and your take away is that we think ‘all men are the devil’. That is hilarious to me!

I’m happily married, professionally successful, and have a heathy and loving friend group. However, when I take public transport, none of that matters.

I’ve had men who I don’t know yell that they want to fuck me and then scream bitch when I ignore them. I’ve had strange men smell my hair on the metro, touch my hair on the metro, try to get me to go on dates, ask me if I’ve ever fucked a black guy, and had one dude punch the window in front of me after I ignored his requests to fuck. Alllll I’m trying to do is go to work or come home from work and all of that happens.

No one helped me- not once. So I’ve developed a system to reduce the likelihood of unwanted attention. If that system hurts your feelings, it seems like a ‘you’ problem. Personally, I feel great!

You make $95k a year and you essentially want to be homeless? You can definitely find a decent studio or 1BR within a decent budget. No need to spend half your income. If you really want to save though you can find a roomate. r/DCforRent and the DMV For Rent Facebook group would probably be a good starting place. I would also join the neighborhood facebook groups where you think you might want to live as I often see requests for roomates pop up in those as well.

If you want to live in your car then more power to you, but it seems like a very extreme solution IMO. Best of luck to you.

Pretty insensitive to link a post from r/homeless when you’re making 95k a year. I don’t know the situation with your family but I do know that’s enough to comfortably rent a room or even a studio in this city, if you’re looking in the right places. Flame me if you want but you really don’t have to live in your car

Sadly, this is true. I’m (F) a lot older than you, so can say that every year past about 25 makes women increasingly invisible. Some changes are welcome, like being able to walk past construction sites without being catcalled. Other changes are less welcome, like feeling ashamed of my changing body.

Just keep trying on the apps and putting yourself out there, but also do things you really enjoy even if it doesn’t lead to partnering up, is my advice.

I (F 41) had great luck on Hinge. Just be honest with what you’re looking for, and adjust your settings accordingly. I’d rather have one decent match a week than a ton of “likes” that won’t amount to anything.

It could be a couple of reasons but I think it could be the algorithm for dating apps tend to favor more active accounts. Also. there are ebbs and flows of match traffic, for example, you'll have days where there's several likes/matches and then it gets "dry" with no matches.This happens to everyone no matter how well your profile is.

I am (32M) and have dated women in their mid 30s. 27 is still young. Not everyone wants to date someone fresh out of college.

It's unfair and easy to blame a city for how difficult dating is in general. I would just say keep doing your thing and find ways to meet people outside of the apps.

Thanks. I used to use Craigslist, years ago, but didn't know if it had changed to scam-central. I will check it out.

Still legit considering just sleeping in my car, but I'll take a chance on being able to find a sub $800 room in the area.

I asked if anyone had legitimate advice about sleeping in their car in the area. Thanks.

I only know what you wrote in your post. You want to move out, but think renting an apartment is a waste of money or costs too much money. But you do make enough money to rent an apartment if you wanted to.

My helpful advice would be to lower your housing costs by getting a roommate/renting a room. Then when you've increased your income enough to where it feels worth the cost, then you could upgrade to your own place

I've used Craigslist.

A good way to filter out scammers is to always meet at the actual apartment. Don't ever send anyone a dime or give them a ton of information until after you have been inside the apartment.

Do you have any tips of where I can find apartments with rooms to rent that aren't full of scammy listings?

you don't know anything about my situation, or my family's dysfunction. this isn't fun. offer something helpful or leave me alone.

It's not very self-aware to link to someone's post about being in such a desperate situation where they have no choice but to live in their car, while asking for tips on how to live in your car for fun while making $95k a year

There are a lot of options that fall between living in your car and spending $47,500 a year on rent.

Maybe consider renting a room in an apartment.

No offense intended to anyone, I guess your are right. I prefer people closer to my own age. Mentoring/helping someone younger is satisfying but that’s really very different than dating/partnering. I guess what I’m trying to say is 27 is super-young and there’s a lot of good dating/partnering years ahead. At least I think so. My happiness quotient went up every year since my early 20’s! Supposedly most people’s does.

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I am a 40 year old woman with resting nice face. I am asked for random stuff from people all of the time (and always have been). I try always to actually be nice and definitely would be nice to a teenage girl who needs help!

And they got what you need in the park

I've lived in the southeast corner of the neighborhood since 2018, pretty close to Bladensburg, and while I like it and have never felt my personal safety was threatened (I'm a white 35F), I would say it's a block-by-block kind of neighborhood. My block feels safe to me, I know many of my neighbors, and there are several older long term residents who kind of keep an eye out during the day. We keep our car parked on the street and have never had an issue. Worst that's happened in my personal experience is package theft and sometimes you will encounter people on the street (or occasionally, in your yard) who may be experiencing a mental health or drug issue.

All that said, there are other blocks in the neighborhood I will generally avoid if I'm out for a walk. I agree with others who suggest taking a look around during the day and during the night to see how you feel. I like living in Trinidad, but it's where I landed after 10+ years in the city and might not be a great first choice if you're not moving from another urban area where you've had some similar experiences.

I don't know, but I wonder what stat it increases.

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Harmless weirdos are fun when I’m people watching. But weirdos that are aggressive or otherwise looking for trouble on Metro I’m generally not in the mood for after a long day at work.

As a mid 40s guy it gets worse for dating.