Tbh today you did not fuck up but saved y’all some serious drama on the day and after. GOOD JOB. THIS IS A BLESSING IN DISGUISE. Also I’m gay and I’d be so mad if I was expected to survive off my gay audacity and two lettuce pieces.

How... In the Hell... Can you say D. C. Isn't diverse?? Are you serious? You're complaining about the weather, when it's better than NYC Weather. After you sure you actually loved in the city? In the regular parts NOT just Capital Hill?

Pizza is exactly what I was thinking. You have dinner, do the toasts, cut the cake, and start the dancing. Two songs in, a bunch of delivery guys comes dancing through the door with stacks of pizzas and the guests go crazy.

NYC resident who was just in D.C. for the long weekend. I thought it was awful. Had previously only been for day trips with school.

It's, quite frankly, shocking that it's the seat of our national government.

Violent and property crime there is way higher in DC than NYC.

If they’re on Google Photos, they’re not public unless you upload them on places where you can actually do that lmao

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I just made carnitas yesterday where they simmer for nearly 3 hours. I’m assuming you’re just ignorant

I cant stress this enough but please dont do haute cuisine for your wedding

Haute cuisine is almost entirely for the looks and so you can say u eat fancy

This is a party, a full day party - make sure people are full or its gonna backfire heavily on you, you dont wanna deal with grumpy and unsatisfied people on your wedding day, so try to mitigate it the best way possible

Haute cuisine in general i dislike so im biased, but i cant for the life of me understand why you would prepare food for the sole sake of being fancy

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Go eat haute cuisine together.

And get nice and plenty of food for the wedding.

Or go with 20 ravioli on a lettuce leave .

Not a FU, y'all needed to hear that.

I would be upset if I sat through all of that and got fed two bites. It's cool if you like that (and it's your wedding, so eat what you like), but there will be A LOT of guests who will be unhappy (not angry, just not happy) at the reception and probably have that as how they remember it.

So if what you are going for is "it's my party, I do what I want and the guests don't matter" then go through with your plan. It's your wedding. But if you are looking to have your guests enjoy themselves, maybe have some consideration of your guests in your food choices.

Since your field has limited roles, is moving out of the US an option at all? Perhaps you can apply for international roles. It may take a while to find an opportunity especially for an overseas move but at least it's a way to move out of DC eventually while not jeopardizing your work.

higher end smart phones as in anything 1000$+. i studied in Tibet for 4 months. i'm not "speaking out of my ass". and youre completely controlling the narrative for no reason.

smartphones are not as common in SEA. there are tons of under privileged families that dont make enough to own them. smartphones are highly stigmatized as a sign of the rich and some families just look down on them because of what they represent via the stigma.

who the fuck compared intelligence? they dont have the same access. not many young kids who are lucky enough to have the phone quite understand all the capabilities. i've experienced this first hand communicating through google translate with a few kids (who had smartphones) asking for directions.

they were shocked.

Oof. I married into a part Italian family. Whenever we eat with them there is about 3x as much food as the people at the dinner could reasonably eat. When we host parties for friends my wife is deeply uncomfortable with "only" 1 pizza per 2 people because "what if most people want to eat more than half a pizza each?" On the other hand when I went to my cousin's wedding (in rural New England in the US) they served enough food for everyone to have one plate but not enough for seconds. My wife was scandalized that seconds weren't an option.

Hey, you changed your avatar and it is no longer mauve.

A wedding is not a place for haute cuisine. It's a place for chicken wings, lasagna, unlimited salad, and cheesecake.

Are you French, by any chance ? I'm getting a very "50yo French father" vibe from your father-in-law haha

This isn't a TIFU. It's today I was given forewarning to change my plans and avoid a fuck up. A TIWGAFWCMYAAAFU?

The bath mat is gonna be missed 😂

3 one was a rag towl and one floor mat

How many did you use? 2? 5? I have 20 bath towels and if 2 went missing (depending on the color/design) I might not notice but 5 I would definitely notice.

Right… in some social circles or cultures it’s a part of a long tradition and is fully expected and welcomed.

When I got married we had (between savings and what was gifted by family to spend on our marriage celebration) about 20k.

We spent about 5k on the wedding (attire and rings included) and the rest on the Honeymoon.

The ceremony was on the beach totaling 30 minutes, and then a reception at a nearby restaurant.

We had people have the option of RSVP’ing to one or the other or both.

We were both on the same page about doing a quick ceremony and spending the bulk on the Honeymoon… 10 years later, it was and still is the best “vacation” I ever had.

No financial worries about spending and having a bunch of expensive random experiences…like getting a penthouse suite at a 5-star hotel for one of our nights there (and then going back to the cozy B&B for the rest of the trip) just to see what that was like once in our lives.

Your Father in Law was just being honest without being pushy about the wedding. Like your Mother in Law saw, she had intrusive family, so they are taking a step back.

I’m with the FIL on this. Everyone will remember your wedding if they went hungry; not how “nice” the food looked.

I had a 4 course meal at mine, with a dessert to follow. Appetizers and catering was also provided. People loved the food; and there was plenty leftover.

He just wants you to know that although you want to have this haute cuisine, to consider how the guests will feel when they’re starved to death because of lack of food.

You didn’t mess up anything, he’s just telling you to keep this in mind - without being intrusive.

Also, you can do fancy and filling together. Just do light situp finger food as a greeting, sitdown 50 bite sized fancy courses, then some family style lasagna for the hungry ones.

Everyone is happy..

It depends on region. Some places do 500 snack plates, some places the families compete for the most stupid sized wedding. Some are 7 day long events. There are ways to do it like that properly. Butbsome people plan big and either get lazy or cheap out.