I feel you. I do get why some of the people getting married might like that. Maybe it's their natural preference, maybe it's just what they imagined due to having it marketed to them since an early age, but everyone has their own desires. I even enjoy being at some those weddings if they were planned in ways that make them enjoyable for guests (i.e. not a fly-to destination wedding at the equator during the most humid season and with peak sun).

But mostly I think they're just a flex and kind of annoying.

There is a time and place for everything. Fast wedding no food? Sure, just warn me. Only snacks and fast? No problem.

But if its a proper wedding, expectation range is: leave stuffed to 5 days straight eating contest, depending on where its happening.

The fuck up is overreacting to his girlfriend.

I feel like the timeframe of the reception should indicate how much food is provided. 4-5 hours should be a full meal.

Am I missing something or did you just say discord? Any pictures you put on disc are uploaded to the cdn, and anyone with the link can access it. not even requiring you to be hacked.

Anyways this is all a huge clusterfuck on your end not to make yourself feel even worse than you do now.

To me it sounds like the quantity is what he's after.

I was steaming beets and the water all boiled away. Ruined the basket and pan. House stunk for days.

A true warrior shouldn’t be afraid of a smearing a little blood, my friend

Since you're cooking on electric already, get an induction furnace.

> There is no “set it and forget it” in cooking.

There is, it's called a slow cooker.

I think if someone had very light diet and are small overall it can be hard to realize how bad it can be for a big man or anyone who needs actual energy from food to deal with the whole day of party time. Imagine having busy week, not enough time to cook and eat properly, maybe some physical work included. Then you take the drive to a party and what you most of all want is to enjoy good food that you recognise what it is.

I am not diabetic but if my blood sugar drops it gets bad. The day should be all about celebration and happiness. Fancy food seems more like a image thing than keeping people energized and happy.

If they won't have enough energy to drive back home after party that is the only thing they will remember. Eating burger on gas station risking getting stains in the fancy clothes.

I cannot understand why OP feels like she fd up.

Keep the catering service. At the reception, have door dash bring pizzas (or whatever their favorite food is) and deliver to their table. For less than $100, you can fill them up, keep your catering, and have a funny story that embarrasses them a little.

Carb load and add protein. Pastas, rice dishes, etc is the cheapest way to fill as many bellies as possible. Keto dieters or those with celiac may he out of luck, but you can't account for all dietary restrictions. Add a couple fruit and veggies trays and you're golden

Agreed. I love what my wife picked for the catering for our wedding (a pizza food truck!)

At least she'd be serving ravioli on a lettuce leaf instead of in a jelly jar or on a pile of taxidermied baby ducks or on a shovel head. That kind of bs really pisses me off.

Yo it fkn happens. People have lives that can easily distract them like a single mom trying to cook while the kids are running around. "Why TF..." because everyone is human

The dad definitely has a point. Pretty sure most guest would rather have enough food than fine dining.

Friends of ours did a “heavy starters” style buffet and a few guests asked when dinner was.

OP has successfully told us not only how inept he is with modern technology, but also that he is seriously not ready for romantic relationships

That was my favorite cigarette of the day, when prep is done and supper is cooking. I still miss that cigarette!

I personally don’t get the “huge, long-ass, and expensive” wedding thing.

No one likes them… except for the people charging for services and space, the couple and maybe the parents of the couple.

I’ve been to a few of these and they are just horrible. I don’t care that you rented a horse drawn carriage and 20 doves, but it’s like 90 degrees outside and now everyone has to sit around and wait because it’s gonna rain for the next hour.

I love going to backyard weddings. There’s friends/family… maybe a 10 minute ceremony and then you hang out for several hours and leave the happy couple to their future lives.

>5 hours with no food (and just alcohol).

That have the potential of turning really fast into "Red Wedding" from ASoIaF or GoT.

There are two people in a relationship. Things can remain "personal" to either party in the relationship until the relationship develops further. This includes sexual history.

"Getting to know you" is not the same as "You must tell me everything now." Not to mention you would be basing everything on something you arbitrarily made up and are expecting someone to guess what that made-up thing is. Crimes? Work history? Dental records?

People aren't stock lined up for you to evaluate.

This. Learning from other people mistakes is wisdom.

We had a wedding that spanned over 2 days - first day was „official“ with 4 families involved.. (30 guests) and the next day was basically a big party with 100+ ppl.

As we got stuffed like chickens on the first day, we decided for a very nice dinner on the second (soup / fish or vegan and dessert) - and some guests were outraged because they wanted to eat more 🤦🏻‍♂️ there was also a never ending supply of chili and sausages later btw.. didn’t help. But you cannot make it right for everybody, make it right for you first and try so satisfy the people whom you really need to in order to have a great day.

This was no FU, this was a day with valuable information!