This wasn't a fuck-up, this was a wake up call. It was caught early enough to change and adapt, so this was a good thing. Your fiancé is right, it needs to change.

Change caterers - you have time. And yes, if I were a guest and you served me some minimalist artisanal nonsense that left me wondering when the main course was going to arrive I would be pissed too. Your fiancé is right, I would judge the ever loving shit out of you both.

Why can’t you return the part?

Gay

Your grasp of French is formidable. That's exactly what "Haute Cuisine" means.

I think that you open the door for his response because you said that he could identify your body from the mark. I fully would’ve done the same thing your boyfriend it, and then felt terrible for it after the fact.

this reminds me of photobucket approx 14 years ago...you could share a pic in your album by selecting the specific URL for the photo. album as a whole was private.

so you would think sharing just that link would allow anyone with the link access to only that photo

the glitch was that once you visit that link, u could click the album & all the content in the album was available to see

Lmao anyone who thinks Google is secure is smoking something. Google makes it money selling our information as it is an advertising company bottom line.

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51 most likely.

One solid takeaway: If you are worried about pictures getting out to the internet, probably a good idea not to send them.

This wound up being so boring and trivial that i'm inclined to break the reddit code and speak negatively. Sorry. But like what the hell. So change the food /thread lol

First I’m sorry for your past trauma. I second looking into not just regular therapy but something like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or one that a friend of mine with a lot of similar trauma as you has done called Accelerated Resolution Therapy. These teach you how to cope and move past trauma and how to deal with the triggers in your life. Secondly, I’m a older guy and the woman I love has scars, I don’t see the scars as ugly, they are just part of her and I find her beautiful as could be. The scars tell a story and that’s ok. She is still here and alive and those stories written in the scars show the resilience and beauty in overcoming. One day you won’t be ashamed of your scars, so hang in there.

Ok so OP this is a teachable moment so I'll help you out here.

1. if it doesn't flush the first go, don't try again. You'll need to plunge.

2. wait for the water to go down before you try again. There is very likely also a knob behind the toilet to turn off the water so it doesn't refill and cause a flood.

3. if all else fails, and you end up with poop water on the floor, clean up thoroughly. Very thoroughly. Paper towels are more wasteful than using bath towels but they're also less expensive to replace.

4. if you use the towels anyway, replace them with new ones. No need to explain. Just say you wanted to get them something nice. Or you can be vague and say you accidentally ruined some. But don't throw out someone's stuff without at least offering a replacement.

Good luck in your future pooping.

Hot dogs and burgers are cheap and you could just put it on one side of the catering line and the fancy fancy stuff on the other side.

Agreed

Born with it but not mastering it... weird

Google photos is perfectly safe! I work in a cellular store and help people transfer their photos daily...many of them have nude or x rated photos. Not a big deal.

I'll be honest. I'm not even sure I understand that anything even occurred.

This story went over my head. You were pointing them out and called them "marks" he then said "scars". Was that the issue? He used the word "scar"?

I don't get it. It doesn't sound like anything happened at all.

Um, did you ever hear of this thing called a “washing machine?” It’s like, magic for cleaning cloth. You don’t just throw away towels, even if they have shit on them. So do people’s drawers, occasionally.

Maybe I’m wrong. But I sort of get what both of you feel.

I have scars of horrible events. But it’s something that I cannot change without surgery. And it would be purely cosmetic. I cannot imagine “normal” look where these scars are. It’s part of who I am. I feel guilty that someone I’m with would have to have this “defective” partner. And it will never be beautiful to me. But it’s part of who I am.

But when I have a partner who has scars, I realize that loving them for who they are is also loving those scars. Not the events that happened but loving the as a whole. Scars and all. Kinda hypocritical I suppose.

Not sure this helps anyone. But I hope you find clarity. If you have any specific questions I can maybe give my perspective on it from both sides I suppose. But not sure how much help I’d be. You should seek some professionals help.

Do you know what “desperately clinging to unrelated tangential subjects” means?

You 100% need to come clean. Do it now and you might get a slap on the wrist as this was an accident. Even if treated as theft, at least you show integrity in facing the music and this might prevent a big escalation. Because even by your plan of doing nothing, even if they cant pinpoint who did it, everyone will always be under scrutiny and one of your peers will squeak sooner or later. Best of luck to you mate.

Ah, I do apologise then! Sorry!

Man I really wish my life was in such a place that things like this counts as a serious fuck up lol