I scratched my head more than once aswell while reading this

Co-sign on the above. I’ve got scars on the outside and inside and was very nervous before talking about them with the woman who is now my wife. But over time, she assured me that the scars were a part of me. My history. And they were signs that I survived and persevered. And eventually I started seeing them that way too.

Highly recommend therapy. It’s useful when you find the right person who can help you put your past in order and then in the past. But scars never define you negatively. They only ever mean that you survived something really, really tough. And that just makes you a badass.

Yeah if I go to an event and get given enough food to only feed a 4 year old, I'm not gonna be impressed, especially if it's an all day event. If the guests are going off to get food elsewhere or are ordering in delivery then there's definitely not enough going around.

Yeah, that. Also, in the future, make sure your acquisition of retired hardware is above board.

What kind of person would see a trash can with one bag of trash in it and be like "Oooh, only one bag of trash better check out what's in it!" ??? lol

>it sounds like it's pretentious solely for the sake of being pretentious

Turns out you do know what it means =)

Well good! :)

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And thank you! TBH I'm probably going to ss that because I don't really consider that enough and forget I'm not a robot. I try to be logical more than understanding my emotions and sometimes it backfires on me lol

I don't know what "haute cuisine" is, but it sounds like it's pretentious solely for the sake of being pretentious, which is a super-niche kind of thing. Forcing that on a bunch of people who took time out of their schedules to share your day with you, especially if you're also making them travel to do it, means you should really consider offering them real food, and at least 2 options that cover the majority of potential tastes. I hope OP was only being dramatic with "2 ravioli on a leaf of lettuce", but even if that is dramatic it still sounds like the reality of that food is to make a statement, not fill a hungry belly. Weddings are not the place for that.

Thank you! I have been looking at my options, I responded to another's comment about it going into more detail, he definitely does and I love all of him and I'm so lucky to have such a thoughtful, amazing, and genuine person in my life. Thank you again!!

Fuck, I'm extremely sorry for the situation you were put into and I'm so glad you found a great person for you!! Thank you so much I really appreciate you and your kind words! <3

You got this OP. Just make sure there are enough leaves with ravioli around and you're good.

Haha thanks! My nose is fine :P

You're learning this about 10 years earlier in your life than I did, but - to paraphrase my therapist - you always have to validate your feelings.

Sometimes, what you think and what's logical is not the same as what you feel. You can change what you think of the situation, but it's not healthy to fight how you feel.

So I basically told him that I knew what he meant and that he wasn't being rude or snide with his comment, I said that I'm not mad or upset with him or anything but that information did catch me off guard and kinda hurt. I explained that it hurt because even after all this time I still can't get far enough away from what happened. He was completely understanding and apologetic. We have been fine since then but my brain is just annoying. I have not been treating him any different and unlike people on here who haven't faced true emotional abuse I've made it a point to have open communication and time together! Thank you!!

Your father literally stated that he did not want to leave hungry. As long as there are enough appetizers and food available to go around, he will be fine.

Thank you!! Sorry I'm new to using reddit and clueless

Thank you! He is a wonderful guy and that's why I can say he never said it with any poor intent. We are completely fine aside from a shower or two less together lol <3

Oh, this is beautiful! I hope you two have a wonderful wedding, reception, marriage, and life!

Thank you! I've looked at my options and if you read I response to someone's comment I just posted I think it'll better make sense! Thank you again so much!

See, I wen’t one day through my google and apple accounts. I saw that they auto upload photos and videos they think are important to me and keep them there. Mostly memes and screenshots, not a single nude from my phone and I have a lot of nudes on it. I still don’t trust them so I’ve disabled all syncs, backups, and sorts. And yet Google still backups some, even that I explicitly disabled those. Apple on the other hand didn’t upload or backup anything since I made those changes… buuuuut, when I connect my phone to a PC and give it permission to connect, and I open my camera folders all hidden pictures and videos are there and visible. I can’t go through my photos on a PC with anyone, because of this. Google and Apple had a lot to work on their privacy and security, tho. Especially Google. But bare in mind that a lot of the apps you give permission to read and write your albums, backup them on their servers for quick access. Especially apps like snapchat, tiktok, etc…

Thank you! <3

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Also, I hope your nose is okay!!

Thank you I actually really needed to hear that <3

2FA on google accounts.

also, google photos is not https://www.google.com/search?q=nudes+of+your+gf

Faulted I suppose is a bad way to say it, it was just kinda how I wrote it. But yes! He is trying his best and I'm not mad at him at all. Things have been completely normal between us but I just keep thinking about it. I never want him to feel bad about telling me the truth so it's more of my internal thoughts just bugging me! Thank you!