If I had to guess, I would say it bothered you that he could identify you by the thing that hurt you most and not by another feature that you feel is yourself. It really doesn't have much to do with the scars themselves, physically. You don't wanna be permanently marked or identified by this horrific thing that was done to you. Something that you feel isn't actually part of you. Something that isn't you and you don't want it to be.

If this is correct (or close) then you probably need some help dealing with the fallout of the traumatic experience. I'm not sure what kind of counciling you've had, but you might look into a Trauma Informed Therapist. There's many ways of dealing with trauma, and I have no experience with Trauma that left physical scars. All mine are emotional and not visible, physically. I had a hard time accepting that the hurt part of me is still me and deserves the same amount of love as the rest of me. I can't cut out the hurt parts of me or pretend they don't exist. I had to find a way to love and accept them, in the same way I had to learn to love and accept myself as a whole. Your best bet is to go to a professional to help you work through this and to NOT make your boyfriend your councilor. I'm sure he wants to love and support you, and clearly he had, but it's NOT his job. (This is a caution from personal experience)

If you'd like some reddit support I highly recommend r/CPTSD. A friendly community and there's books and stuff they recommend that you may find useful, especially if therapy isn't for you for whatever reason.

Stating the obvious here but there are programs that can take a screenshot and Snapchat hasn't a clue so it doesn't report it to you. Also someone could easily just use another camera or phone camera and get copies that way. The only way to prevent leaks is to not send in the 1st place.

She said Mark, which could be a scar or mole or.birthmark, but I get where you're coming from

>If it's on Google Photos... those aren't public???

Came here to ask this! Not sure why OP is talking about the photos being public on the internet, because that's not how Google photos works!

Yeah nobody interested in sex ever worked at google. Of course they don't have AI that knows what pictures are of XDD

Don't make porn if you don't want people to see it.....

And for that to you you have to specify the photos you want in that shared album, not your entire Google photos

Your boyfriend is 100% correct that your scars are a possible means of verification. When asked by the doctors/police/coroner, if they are obvious, regardless of the cause, they are good identification marks. You should be glad that your boyfriend can think rationally about such a thing, this type of thinking makes one better at life.

You decided how you reacted, and you freely admit to KNOWING he meant no offense, and yet you still are punishing him. You have emotional scars, these scars are manifesting in you being emotionally abusive to your boyfriend by withholding affection.

https://themendproject.com/emotional-abuse-withholding/

You want to fix this? Then change how you are treating your boyfriend, then find a good therapist who can help you process your past trauma.

you're a nobody, and thus your stuff is safe. google storage is so uncomprehensively massive and secure that the chances of someone 1) hacking it 2) getting YOUR specific information among the terabytes of user data is essentially zero. i'm not saying you should go put your passwords online or whatever, but imo, if you're not a millionaire, government employee, or CEO, your data is safe.

This happened to me, something was in the garbage pile that shouldn't have been, in particular a network switch. Admitted I took it from the garbage pile, went home and got it - literally never came up again.

My wife has a shared Google folder with my mom so she can share all the pictures of our son.

All the comments saying to confess and explain are only valid if salvaging parts that are going to recycling is an acceptable practice to begin with. Based on OP's reaction, I'm guessing he shouldn't be "salvaging" these parts at all.

who has a shared google account with his family?

Exactly. He sees them as a part of her that sets her apart from someone else. I understand that OP only sees the bad associated with the scarring, but that doesn’t make them invisible. The simple fact of the matter is that they exist and can be seen by others whether that’s ideal or not. But that doesn’t mean that anybody else means anything negative by seeing them, much like the boyfriend acknowledging their existence wasn’t meant to be negative

She said she made a joke about a mark on her body, so maybe a mole or birthmark? Then he said the scars and she was caught off guard

So you stole property is what you are saying?

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So, was scavenging from the recycle pile allowed? If so, just tell them you made a mistake. If not, you're fucked either way, time to get job searching/hire a lawyer depending on what you took.

Your scars are part of you. Your bf seems to love you and that means your scars too because they are a part of you. It seems to be normal for him.. not for you though.. i think maybe it would help you to try and see them more neutral.

>I'm sure with time you'll understand that those scars aren't reminders of your past trauma, but marks of honor that are proof of your strength and will of survival.

so this...worth repeating to yourself every day

so how does it end? you can't have typed this up at work, or they are very slow at catching the culprit

It is great that you feel this way, nudes are an insane show of trust so you shouldn't take that lightly but I feel that you have misunderstood how the cloud works and backing up photos. These photos are not public, they are only available to you, you can make them public but even then people need the link to your page to see them so the odds anyone could have seen them even if you had them up for 2 years would be miniscule, 2h is just you being VERY paranoid. Sorry to say this but you talking to her about this only made her worry about something that was completely risk free.

But if both of you are so paranoid about having nude on the Internet then why not get a cheap Polaroid camera and do a little photo shoot, could be really fun.

nah, we smoking disheveled limbs then 😂

So it isn't for broke folks, it's for folks that can't roll. I think your post might want a little edit.. 😂😂

gun to my head, I'm dying 😂

Here's the real question though: can you roll?