That is what STERILE means. Read my original comment again.

Awww RIP Johnny girl:(

Well...her life had some significance...cause it gave you a story, that made me chuckle lol:)...just teasin'

It happens. Had so many fish eaten over the years while learning. Don't feel too bad. Could also just have died

Heh. Had oscars before myself. They honestly look at the world as "Can I eat it, or will it eat me?" If they can get part of it in their mouth they will do their damnedest to swallow the thing.

Bird took it

Bummer. I'm certain it was not eaten by that means my research was bad that it would be a good tank mate.

Yeah they can still eat them in pieces

Sure bud

I transisioned

You might say it’s rockin’ it.

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This snails body without its shell was larger than the head of the betta

Oh my God. That's horrifying. I feel closer to you through shared trauma my friend.

People are seriously downvoting me making two "I" statements? That says a lot more about them than it does about me.

This is pretty awesome, but…

>his gamertag rhymes with the word spank.

Am I missing something? Because spack and spank definitely don’t rhyme 😂

Gotcha. It’s a case of she never forgave you. Ok, I take it all back.

Fuck that, you don’t need the kind of person to lead you into thinking you are good when you are not.

Sorry about your snail:(

When I was little, maybe 7 or 8, my mom's bf had a tank with an Oscar fish and an algae eater fish.

Well, one day they decided to get one of those little aquatic frogs for the tank. My sister and I were soooo excited, just instantly in love, he was so incredibly adorable!

A day or two later, Freddy goes missing. Mom and bf say, "Oh well, guess he got eaten." Sis and I are heartbroken.

Day or two after that, there goes Oscar swimming around with two teeny webbed feet hanging out of his mouth. Sis and I are horrified.

They figured he was hanging out in the top of the tank, scared for his life (justifiably so, as it turned out!), but he couldn't stay there forever, poor thing:(

Very nice!

Find a rubber duck then.

Quit dumping your life story/trauma onto others who are openly ill-equipped to handle your shit, then consider them unfriendly for saying so. Friends can support you without being a pillar for you to lean on and use, and it's not everybody else's job to process things for you, that's why people get paid to do it.

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Bruh you literally tried to say you could get laid at the drop of a hat, along with flexing (lying) about how many matches you had on tinder 😂 it appears you do try and conduct yourself with that type of arrogance irl even if it is false

Your friend sounds like it's possible they have something that is complicating their mood stability and feeding into unhealthy coping mechanisms... probably something like Borderline Personality Disorder, and I offer that only because the OP's description is freakishly similar to a close friend who had that Dx and when she was sometimes unable to afford her medication, she quickly spiralled into her own personal doom. Same meltdowns, "my life is over" sort of stuff all the time... constantly in a state of imminent abandonment and overall chaos... Dated the worst types of guys who were never going to treat her properly or allow her to be herself fully... so it was just constant fighting and conflict.

Since then I also went back to school for psych and so I got a lot of useful education that helped me understand how much of what she was doing was really not within her ability to avoid doing. So no, OP, you did not FU here. Your friend needs help, regardless of what the formal Dx would be... as her behavior is not indicating she's in a good place and she's engaging in some degree of self-harm even if it's just financially.

My friend is doing great now, btw. Found a very kind partner, got married, had a kid... once she got herself back on track and the right meds/therapy. Assuming there is a legit psych reason for her unstable behavior... there IS hope things will sort themselves out.

If your friend gets themselves under the care of someone who can help them see they are not living their best life by allowing their dysfunction to rule their chance at happiness... then a lot of the other stuff should fade into yesterday and leave room for a much more stable tomorrow.

therapists are good for complaining to

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I probably need therapy. I also need someone to complain to.