NEITHER of you did anything wrong, other than talking before you got physical.

You had the conversation about what you were feeling, which was legitimate.. and she shared what she was thinking, which is also legitimate. No one did anything "wrong" - it's just how you both handle the situation going forward.

Yeah I'm pretty confused about it all happening so fast. I really didn't like the feeling of confusion. I really wish this relationship hadn't gotten so messy. I definitely am going to give it some space. It's just hard to stop myself from thinking about it and beating myself up for driving her away, even if I didn't mean to.

I hope he pays it forward! Good on you for letting him keep it, you never know what chain reaction of positive events will occur because of your generosity.

I just really hope we can be friends again. I perfectly understand that things might be a little awkward for a little bit. If things are a little different, I'm also okay. I'm just scared to reach out any more, even for something platonic. I really don't want to overwhelm her with anything.

You're a good person. That brightened my day.

Yeah I wasn't really expecting to catch feelings for this girl. I honestly wish we could go back in time a little bit. I would much much rather still be a virgin and have her as a friend than be in the situation we are in now. I think the fuckup was the whole experience of sharing my feelings, then explaining I don't want to be a second choice, then apologizing. about all of it. I think it was just way too much too fast. I was in an extremely confused state.

Thanks for the advice. I honestly don't care if she wants to date me or not now, I would just like to have her in my life somehow. She made it better.

Your FU was bringing your feelings into it after she told you she just wanted to be fuck buddies, and especially moreso that you kept messaging her and whining about the situation when she clearly wasn't being receptive. That tends to turn girls off, especially a girl like this who said she wasn't looking for a relationship. It makes you seem needy and insecure.

More to the point, it introduces drama that she was definitely not looking for. I guarantee you when you started whining about always being other girls' second choice, this girl was thinking "Uh oh, what have I gotten myself into?"

After she said she just wanted to be fuck buddies, you should have just said "I'm down." or something to that effect and left it at that. You said so yourself, you were having a great time with this girl, and you had the potential to get laid again. Why mess with that?

You need to learn when it's appropriate to express your true feelings and when to hold your tongue, not just when dealing with girls, but just in life in general. Hint: In most situations, less is almost always more.

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>haven't been able to maintain a relationship longer than a few weeks.

My guy, this is the reason why. Girls don't like overly-emotional, clingy, insecure, needy guys. You are a walking, talking turn-off machine. You need to learn to tone it down a bit and, for lack of better word, learn not to care so much.

That's the spirit 👍

I’ll post it later. But I set myself on fire while holding a gasoline container. Being in the ocean felt like it was going to take me over time no matter what I did. Having my right arm in flames while trying to put out the fire felt like a bomb was going to blow up on me at any moment. And yes I was drinking again.

Don’t salute me yet, I only conquer it for months here and there before I relapse. I really hope I win this battle. There’s this phrase “the devil is doing push ups in the parking lot”, meaning that the disease never fades and weakens, it’s always just outside, getting stronger and stronger while it waits for you to slip up

Sounds exactly like the plot of sixteen candles.

Get back on that horse and start slinging dingaling

I mean, our fished loves to eat the snails..

I don't think you did anything wrong, it's just kinda par for the course things like this will happen, move on.

When you’ve known each other for years, and been hanging out a few months, it’s not ‘one date and one lay’.

>I (23M) have a had a friend (22F) for a few months now. We went to high school together and were friends then. We weren't ever super close then, but we were friendly and hung out sometimes and did some school activities together. One of them was we were in the school play together. We never talked/saw each other after I graduated (she was the year below me).

They're not exactly lifelong besties. They were friendly in high school, lost contact immediately after graduating, and reconnected a few months ago.

Unfortunately not, in retracing my steps my best bet is that he was clinging to the filter which I took out first. But best of luck to you 🙏

The vocalizing is the root of the problem. Science is on my side of this discussion. Sorry.

In 2015 my city had a prolonged bout of extreme cold and snow, and a pipe burst in the building my company leases. The leak was directly above the main transformer for the building, which shorted and exploded, causing a fire. I got The Mother Of All Texts at 5am from my lab monitoring systems screaming that every fucking thing had switched to UPS power or was offline.

I raced into work in a blizzard and started our shutdown/tie-in protocol. The building owners ended up renting a truck-mounted generator for a week and parking it in the loading dock to provide emergency heating, emergency lights, and emergency power for critical equipment.

Poor Gary

It's now trying to kill OP!

He obviously went on his way and is now living his best life in a nearby pond.

I agree with this guy

It seems like she's in her experience phase. Are you guys in uni/college? I understand that phase, and unfortunately, I have been guilty of similar behavior also. It is a bit selfish for sure, and I felt pretty awful afterward.

I hope in time she understands what she kinda did to you.

This being said, lose the attitude of "girls i date, always have another guy" approach to life. It's self loathing, desperate and people can smell that shit on you from a mile away. Especially in the dating scene. Go into all dates with 0 expectations. The only thing you are promised on a date is an interaction with another person for a short period of time. Any assumptions or expectations met outside that are dumb. You can have intentions, and that's fine, but don't expect love, sex after a first date. Not that it's impossible, but expecting it is also dumb.

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He's on his way to touch a random stranger.

WHAT HAVE YOU DONE?!?!?