https://youtu.be/SPyv7f8bp5g

Sounds like you’re very young and are inexperienced in not just relationships but also dealing with your own feelings. It’s hard for a person to love you when you don’t love yourself. Sex is great but you can’t base an entire relationship off your sexual expectations. If your partner isn’t feeling the same sex drive you can’t just argue or pressure your way into getting what you want.

I would suggest seeing the therapist you talked about and maybe trying to meet more people. You can get her the gift if you want but don’t expect anything out of it other than your own satisfaction. Learn to be comfortable with yourself and others will be comfortable with you. Never make your own happiness and well being dependent on someone else or what they do for you. Good luck.

She was the perfect woman for you, you were far from the perfect boy for her. You can’t say that you “can’t” let her go because it’s not your choice. If she is done with you then she is done. You need to work on yourself as others have said, if you aren’t a teenager it’s probably worth looking into some type of program for sex addicts because you are borderline obsessive with your desires so much so that you are getting angry for two hours when you only fuck twice a month. It’s certainly not ideal but you are either a teen or you have a problem. It’s your actions that probably made sex less desirable for her, seeing how much importance you put on sex she likely felt like an object and seeing you throw a tantrum didn’t help either. Sex is great, but you can’t have a solid relationship built on just that and sometimes with work schedules, kids, and just life you don’t get to have it as often as you would like and if that’s enough for you to throw away your “perfect person” then that is entirely a you thing that you need to work on. I think a lot of us at one time or another felt we had the one that got away. Eventually you’ll find the right fit so long as you do the work on yourself to attract the woman that actually completes you. Coming from someone that was once a hormonal sex crazed teen that thought sex was the most important thing on the planet, lost the love of my life (at that time) only to realize with a lot of growing up, therapy, and work on myself that that relationship was far from an adult relationship. I have now found my person and the future mother of my children and I love her dearly and on a deeper level than I could even have fathomed at that time.

Been there, it’ll take some time and probably a weed addiction to get over her

You should never date the Ogtha guy!

I don’t think you really fucked up. Sounds like you’re just 18 or so and have never had a serious relationship. Give her some space. Good piece of advice- sometimes you don’t have to communicate every feeling you’re having lol. You probably scared her by filling her in on the ‘actually if I’m your second choice never mind’ part 🤣 be true to yourself, that was the smart move, but telling her probably made her feel like she hurt you

>I don't know how to sex a cat.

r/brandnewsentence

maybe it’s both

Yikes man. Get help.

I definitely read that last part as you named the other two cats anus and vagina. That said i tend to have a gutter mind and I'm tired lol.

You only shut off the hot water when you turned off the shutoff by your hw tank

Heard its now called WokeGpt

Sound like something that would happen to me with the same song. 😂

Yea I would never pressure her to have sex, let’s just say she has a reason to feel the way she does about sex. It was always her decision entirely. Yea I thought about texting her today because there was a lot that was unsaid. But I’m not going to. Thank you again

There should also be a water shutoff where the service line enters the house - should be a little easier to get to than shutting it off at the curb. Anyone who lives in a house should learn where this is and how to shut off the water because it sucks to try and figure out while water is spewing into your home

That's good, I'm glad to hear that cus if all you say is 'i pressured her for sex she didn't want for a year and then she left me and said she doesn't want to see me for months but i need her' it's gonna shine an ugly light on you by leaving out a lot of important context.

But more importantly DONT start that conversation when she comes to drop off her things, it could make her feel trapped and pressured because she's on your home turf.

Maybe things are different than described but at this time it sounds like she needs time to think and it might feel like an ambush if she hasn't had enough time yet. Just take the stuff, be respectful, and wish her a nice day. Let her go.

If she brings it up, cool, have the talk. But if not then just let her leave without putting that on her, and let her get in touch via phone at a later date. If what you said about her wanting to fight for the relationship is true, she will initiate that conversation when she's ready. For now, your fight is to give her space to grow while you do the same. Godspeed my dude. Wishing you both the best.

Good job, glad you got it sorted

The sole point of this post was to talk about how I messed up, I chose not to include her part. She also believes it’s her fault. She thinks Im the right person, so I just don’t want to give up that thought. I would always ask her if anything was wrong, she didn’t want to tell me. Im giving her space, I’ll ask about all the wrong doings I did when she comes and drops off my things. Thank you for being honest :)

Escalating verbal conflict to physical conflict is not a self defense mechanism. Crossing the room to kick his table and scratch him out of anger was not a mistake, it was a choice.

It does sound like OP gets this was a fuck up, and both were in the wrong, but the title is still incorrect and downplaying what happened in the comments is dumb.

Same! I've had all kinds of animals over the years, so when a blind stray cat showed up on our property, I was comfortable securing it in a safe cage (my dogs are NOT cat friendly). I posted on the neighborhood site to see if anyone claimed it. No one did, so I brought it inside and started loving it back to health. It loves belly rubs, so I could easily check out the parts and see it was a female. I took her to the vet and registered her under her new name, Bella. Learned that day that she is a neutered male. Oops. His name is now Bello.

Whatever you feel about whether you were morally right, here, and I do believe there's grey area in like a cosmic sense when he came at you like that . . . you cannot physically attack people in school, because they don't weigh physical and mental attacks the same way. You won't be punished that severely; it's just a fight. You might get suspended, but no one in your adult life will ever care. Just don't do it again.

Not self defense, he did not assault you nor verbally threaten your safety. And you’re clearly self aware of your issues so I don’t think being autistic is gonna work as an excuse either. Part of being an adult is recognizing your weak spots and working on them. Sounds like you need to work on ignoring people. Move forward and grow from it.

Maybe in the past you agreed to fight for your relationship, but has she said she still wants to do that now?

Here's my advice.

My friend, you need to listen to the others or you're just going to make it even worse. Read your own post again.

Realize what you wrote isn't about your love for her, it's about how YOU miss all the ways she makes YOU feel better.

Take note of how you even begged her to stay friends so YOU can hug her when YOU have a bad day.

Really think about how your entire relationship as described here was about the sexual services you expected her to provide to YOU.

Everything youve said makes her sound like an object or service you just enjoy having around for emotional support rather than a living breathing person with her own feelings. You don't even mention how she felt about everything. Did you ever ask her how she felt?

I know it's difficult and you're emotional about it all but pack it up and think long and hard about this because this should be a serious wake up call for you. Honestly it sounds like she escaped a pretty shitty situation by getting out.

Listen when your ex says she doesn't want to be with you anymore. Hear the reasons why and, since you are so important to yourself, change for yourself or you're probably going to lose a lot more than a girlfriend over the years.

This is written a little more bluntly than I normally would because you said you're asking for real advice but seem to have a hard time accepting it. So here it is, rough and ready, to the point.

Good luck with the therapy. Remember it can take a while to find the perfect fit, so take your time and don't let it discourage you if the first therapist doesn't feel right. You deserve to learn, grow, and be better. Sending positive vibes.

That’s very heartwarming

Hmm, she knew you were a virgin, and still slept with you knowing she was seeing another guy? In my opinion, and maybe I'm old fashioned, but that wasn't cool. Your first time is supposed to be special, she probably should have told you this was just a casual thing before anything happened. Not judging anyone, but that wasn't a kind thing for her to do. Your first time is a pretty big deal, and it sucks that it ended like this.