Look at your username dumbass

We're calling to see if the boxes are there or somewhere halfway to Quintana Roo where we are, seems like they often don't answer calls to the office there

Parents letting their imaginary friend run their lives and control the lives of their children. Honestly they are the ones that are mentally ill.

I feel terrible for your sister. Her dad abandons her when she needs support the most.

Do what you have to until you get out from under their roof. You did not F up, your parents are F ups.

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Correos de mexico is the worst. I wouldn’t give up hope, they might still arrive

To not pull your foreskin back while peeing?
You think that's a normal thing to do?
Not unless you're 2 years old.

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Nah im pretty confident it’s a normal thing to do bro

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This isn’t on you. You should be allowed to encourage your partner to have friends without worrying that he’ll sleep with them. He took advantage of your trust in him and betrayed it.

Just live with it. You weren't ready.

I don't know wtf you are on about, but fine -- deleted.

Why would they take off his braces? Also an orthodontist works with braces, not dentist.

They took you both to the hospital? and then had to wait an entire day for the dentist?

For sure don't stay with him better you find out now rather than later!

You inferring something does not mean that thing was implied.

As someone who's grown up in a Muslim household myself, I understand your situation. However, before I dive any deeper, I first want you to understand that you did NOT fuck up by owning up to it and telling her the cold hard truth. It's probably the best thing you could've done in your situation, and I respect you for doing that.

One of the problems with most parents, particularly the conservative type (I actually don't know how conservative your parents are mind you), is that they tend to hyperbolize their children's shortcomings. Whenever a child fucks up, instead of sitting down and having "the talk", the parents will give off the vibe that you're committed the most horrible of atrocities imaginable. You mentioned that you had a verbal exchange with your mother ending with the "work hard and focus on your studies" bit. I'm not sure how well she communicated the situation, or whether she addressed the elephant in the room in the first place regarding the alcohol, but I guess you could count that as the talk. The way she's acting afterwards however, is not healthy for the child. I'll get to that in a bit.

Her reaction is quite natural. She's understandably upset that her child has deviated from the path she set out for them. Anyone would be in her place; I don't blame her for that. But at the end of the day, you as a parent should understand that children will fuck up. It's not a matter of if, but when. You gotta build that mindset when raising one, something that parents in this side of the town unfortunately fail to grasp. Your job as a parent in this situation is to guide them in the right direction. Whether they take that guidance afterwards is on them, and they'll have to live with the respective consequences (this is also something they have the responsibility of making abundantly clear to said child).

The tactic your mother's employing however, partly borne from her own emotions, is to build up a mountain of guilt in a passive-aggressive manner that devastates you. It associates this extremely negative (often traumatic) patch of memory to an indulgence they do not endorse (in this case alcohol) to ensure you recall said moments when committing to said indulgence again in the hope that triggering said memory will discourage them from doing so. From experience I can tell you that only works 40% of the time. Regardless, what I want you to take away from this is: don't think too hard into it. It's just the way some parents handle the situation, and your mom happens to fall into this specific category. Some parents would approach this better, others exponentially worse. Deal with this in a mature way, but don't let it get to you.

Let's put your family and friends to the side for a second and focus on you. Look, you're 18. This is THE prime time for you to experience everything this shithole has to offer and grow yourself as a person off of that. This is the part of your life where you'll be making the shittiest of life choices and learning from them. Just don't go in too deep. Be mindful of which path you're treading, and make sure you're in a spot where you can pull yourself out of the situation if it spirals out of control. The way you do that is by striving a middle ground between your vices and the values you were taught by your parents and the religion that you reluctantly committed to all these years. Whether you choose to be a man of faith or not down the line, always learn to respect these teachings in the brief time you were remotely attached to the religion; the reason being that the ideal lifestyle any religious practice strives is that of stability, and therefore offers a reference point that you can always come back to when charting a course. Maintaining this stance helps you grow to be a wiser person without drifting off the deep end.

You've got your whole fucking life ahead of you fam. Treat this as a learning experience, but don't let it weigh down on you too much. Keep doing what you're doing at university and work. Show your mama that you're growing up to a responsible adult and that you got your shit together despite the vortex of all the unhinged shit young-adult life has to throw at you. Regardless of what happens, I hope your relationship with your family only gets stronger after this farther down the line. It might not feel like that right now, but give it a few years, and both you and your mom will be laughing your ass off about it.

The guy I work for sliced someone’s face for being late

Some dryers do have motor start capacitors but not of the the kind you referenced in old CRT’s.

That being said, there are a whole host of other safety-related things OP could have been injured by as well when disassembling the unit even if it was de-energized. Sharp edges in the sheet metal panels and drum, pulley arms under tension are a couple great examples.

I would never want anyone to get injured by their appliance because I truly care about everyone’s well being and health, but further, as a former in-home technician I also absolutely dreaded walking into someone’s domicile to find they disassembled their product (usually the wrong way) and couldn’t put it back together, losing screws or damaging components in the process. It creates hellacious headaches for technicians to unfuck the mess a product owner can sometimes cause by uninformed disassembly. Often does not end well, unfortunately.

I’m in the uk I can get guns yet

You need to do what you feel is right. He cheated and that sucks, it was with a guy, so does he have a preference of men and you are a cover or does he enjoy both and okay with both? That only matters if you are okay sharing him, though since he did cheat I would argue that he will again if the Leo thing doesn't work out (yeah I fall in the once a cheater always a cheater belief system).

Either way you need to talk with him and then either cut ties and work the break up or accept that this is your life. An ultimatum is a horrible idea and this likely breaks the trust barrier, so I don't know that your relationship will ever be the same.

I kinda took the part about OP scrolling up in the past messages as OP seeing pics shared, though they didn't explicitly say that...

Our parents are not supposed to raise us to become mini versions of them nor should they expect us to be completely aligned in all matters in life -serious or frivolous-. Do not feel guilty over this. If your parents are the amazing parents you are describing them to be, they should understand. If not, I'm sorry but this is not something you need to beat yourself up for. If I were you, I would seek professional assistance by a mental health professional in order to guide me through this period of my life. It is a different thing to love your parents and another one to seek their approval.

All the best.

You didn't FU! You uncovered a irreconcilable flaw in your relationship, before it became a life long regret.