bitch is being cheated on

bitch's inmediate response: how can i compete with a man!?

Updateme!

Dude, something's wrong with your dick

I guess you can still confess your feelings to him. After that, it's up to him how he chooses, and you have to accept either way.

Religion ruins everything

This instance would not have happened but would have ultimately occurred in the future.

To be fair to you, even if you had adressed it with him, it wouldn't have helped - I noticed my ex got more and more distant and our sex life pretty much nonexistent, I adressed her about it and all I got back was "work is stressful" but it was obvious there was more going on - still don't know if she was cheating or if there was something else going on but in the end we broke up

Some people defending the guy .u all need to come outside and see the real world .bunch of weirdos justifying infidelity.

I'm really sorry for what you're going through and you didn't fuck up. I do want to bring up one thing though. Sometimes guys joke in a gay way with each other and it can even get pretty graphic. I have no way of knowing if this is the case though. You definitely need to approach him about it and see what he has to say.

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Watch Grace & Frankie, you might get a kick out of it and it’s so relatable to your situation and it might help you heal and feel less alone. 🥺 I’m so sorry

I’m so sorry 😢

Yeah there's a lot going in here in terms of his closet bisexuality and motivations.

Doesn't change that he cheated and that being unfaithful should always end a relationship

Your partner is a cheating piece of shit. You did nothing wrong. You tried to bring a friend into his life for him. He decided he didn't care enough about you, that he didn't respect you or your relationship enough to break it off or to not cheat.

This isn't on you. You're not competing. You are not the problem. You didn't cheat. He did. Fucking kick him to the curb because he is not worthy of you.

You deserve better. You deserve decent. He is not worth it.

Find someone who gives a damn about you (and there are many people who will).

I'm sorry he cheated. I'm sorry he lied. He isn't though. Don't let him keep hurting you.

That's how I'd ask/break it to him I know... " did you say nohomo"

Vyvanse has the worst numbing effect I undiagnosed myself I'd rather be chaotic than numb it has its own qualms but i feel alive at least

This.

So I’m assuming you’re already in Mexico. Is there any chance you can drive to Mexico City and go to whatever company has your boxes?

Well when you dirty edit your posts it looks different. Delete this you coward

I agree with what this person advised, however i would advise caution on the blanket statement of “Someone who loves you, won t hurt you.” I d treat this statement with a grain of salt and i d be careful of offloading responsibility to one side . I think people that love each other hurt each other because of miscommunication. Have a look at the subject of non violent communication : https://youtu.be/l7TONauJGfc . I know it s a long video but you can search for shorter ones if u feel like it .

Oh wow this blew up. So to answer some questions as I feel so emotionally exhausted I can't reply to all of them but I read all of the comments and I am super grateful for all of you guys!

1. we did talk about Sex a lot and very open and we had anal Sex but I didn't get the feeling that he preferred either to the other. I asked him if he wanted to try any butt stuff and I ate him out once and a little finger play but he never demanded more or anything. I didn't think there was anything lacking in our Sex life.

2. I made an appointment for STD check but unfortunately it is on Friday and until then I have to wonder.

3. I haven't talked to him about it yet. I don't think I can even start the conversation without breaking down crying. But I went to my mom who recently had an accident so me helping her out isn't even a lie. But I think he knows something is up as I haven't been as close and loving as I usually am

4. the messages were pretty clear. I get that guys are a bit weird sometimes and my friend circle is exactly like some people here said their friends were like. If you didn't know they were straight you would absolutely assume they were gay.

5. we live together and have at least another year on our lease. I might figure that out later as I am currently trying to run away from my problems

6. I don't think I can stay with him even after we talked. Even if he would beg for forgiveness and I could find it in my heart to grand it to him. I just feel like he betrayed everything we were. He is my first boyfriend, the first person I put so much trust in after my family is always difficult and constantly disappointing me. I put my entire soul out for him and he crushed it. I feel like part of me is missing like a limb.

I will update once I talked to him. I can't run away forever, I know that.

Ooh, thanks for the clarification, that person totally slipped my mind. Ugh, she's a handful.

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I'm sorry, this must be such a painful situation. It is so difficult when you feel you've let your parents down in a way you didn't feel like you could avoid. It is a terrible feeling, bc you know they see it as a lack of gratitude and respect when it is neither. I think it might help if you sat her down and explained why you aren't following the rules of your religion despite them wishing you to. Explain to her why it doesn't make sense to you, but more importantly explain how sad you are to be doing something you know hurts them. You clearly care a lot about showing them love and respect, so I imagine you wouldn't have given up your religion if it weren't something you felt you had to do. Tell her that. Tell her that your decision had nothing to do with how much you love and respect your parents bc that will never change no matter what you believe about Allah. I think where you messed up was having alcohol in the house. Not being Muslim is one thing, but if your parents are like my parents, I bet she's terrified you have a drinking problem. I think you need to reassure her that you leaving your religion does not mean you're going to become a drunkard or a terrible person, that you are still going to be a good person but just one who doesn't follow the same path as her. Don't keep alcohol or anything else in the house which could make them worry about not being Muslim sending you down a bad path. They will see you haven't changed once the initial shock fades.

I know how it feels, that sucks.. best case scenario is he is polygamous and only has you and sam and he is an asshole. Worst case, he is only an asshole and could never have been trusted. The thing is you will notice you will never believe anything he says anyway, he can't prove negatives. At some point you will realize you have to keep trusting a person that broke your trust in the worst way possible. That takes strength and maybe it's naive, unlikely it pays of. Or you do the smart thing and move on. Sunk cost fallacy is a thing it feels like you're not ever gonna find that fit again and if you dump him it's all wasted ..it's terrible.. but I recommend moving on, there is so much more life ahead of you and you can find something much better. In my case the other person didn't know about me either so we got to be friends and took a 1 week vacation together to get it all out. But it looks like Leo knows you exist and are infact a gf who wants a monogamous relationship,the chance is low that he doesn't know and sam told him "oh we are an open relationship" or smth.. but you can be a better judge of that. So Leo is very likely an asshole too.

All my strength to you, you can do this.