Recent comments in /f/tifu

Early-Sir-518 t1_j9j0gxo wrote

So this is going to be hard to hear but sometimes it takes something like this to grow your own life. It's not being ungrateful to your parents to have your own beliefs, hopes, dreams and desires. Your definition of a good person is allowed to be different to that of your mom's. Judging from her reaction though she is shocked, I don't believe she thinks that you're a bad person. Focus on your studies, and continue to grow your own life. Continue to show your appreciation to your parents and I'm sure over time they will find comfort in what you are building for yourself.

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nebulaorbit t1_j9izl20 wrote

Jehova's is a complicated religion. Part of it is that you have to try your best to teach others. Your mom has a quota of number of people she has to talk to each week, if she doesn't she will go to hell (or thats what she believes). It must be really tough to be a Jehovas Witness, I fell sorry for them. Thinking about it, I now also feel sorry for that certain kind of vegan we all know... Seems very similar.

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AnEpicTaleOfNope t1_j9iyrr2 wrote

This situation didn't change anything about your character or his, it just illuminated what was already there. That he is a cheater, and that you are a really caring generous person. Cheaters cheat, so even if you hadn't discovered it this time he'd be cheating anyway. Not your fuck up. Everything you did was with a warm and generous heart, and I'm so sorry your partner is such a giant jerk and disappointment, you deserve much better.

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homelessdreamer t1_j9iyjy1 wrote

My advice to you is spend less than $400 next time. That is an insane amount for sex toys. The most expensive flashlight I have had is $150 the best flashlight was $6. The robotic stuff really doesn't hold a candle to the nuance and control you get from a silicone cock sleeve with no case and it is significantly easier to hide and keep clean. Also make sure you buy a cleaning agent and clean after every use.

On a non-sexual note, call your sister and tell her you love her. When you have toxic parents having siblings who care can mean the world. It can be helpful for both you and her. It might even help her feel seen which can be a game changer when dealing with depression. Wish you the best and I hope you find a way out of that situation sooner than later.

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GentleWhiteGiant t1_j9ixozn wrote

She's not terrible, she totally fucked up from a pro perspective. She changed the setting without consent of her client, she destroyed the trust to her client, and she didn't intervene to protect OP when things where falling apart. She obviously has no insight into the relationship patterns of OP's family.

u/AdFamiliar6862, you did nothing fucking wrong! I adore your strength, and I wish that you find the professional support you need in the future.

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