She's gana struggle when you die at 19 too. You are being payed to do the risky work so someone else doesn't go to prison. Thats not a solution to your problem, thats just making it easier now and much much harder for you mom later.

Often times when terrible things happen we want to blame ourselves because we want to think that we have control over the situation in some way. If it was our fault, then that means we can make sure it doesn’t happen again.

In reality though, many things are out of our control.

It won’t make things hurt less, but I hope hearing this can help you make some sense of these feelings. I’m so sorry. We are here for you though, to listen and to talk if you need it.

Dating is about the other person revealing if they are going to be committed to you or not.

This isn’t about anything you did/didn’t do. This was about his choice to not be committed to you.

Better you see that now, Vs later.

I'm only saying this because you are young. 700 isn't that much, you don't have time to get the original money back, and you probably don't have the muscle. You are already fucked one way or another, steal from your parents or whatever you have to do to get the money, a laptop or an Xbox will get you a decent ways, borrow it if it all possible even if you have to fess up to a family member, as long as you aren't stealing/borrowing from someone thats going to hurt you real bad or kill you. Sell everything you own if you have to. Once you replace the money get the fuck out, go live with your aunt in another state whatever the fuck it takes, if you go down that road you are going to end up a corpse in a ditch eventually. People don't die of old age In that business, often they die young. No amout of money is worth your life. You aren't cool, you aren't a badass, you are well payed canonfodder, nothing more.

Lol if she laughed at that beer joke, she's in to you.

I'd say take some time to think about your next steps. Think about finances and living situation, think about arrangements, think about the questions you need to ask him for closure because it may be that he cares about you but doesn't know what to do.

Don't stay in the relationship, maybe way down the line you can still be friends with him. It sucks, but better now than later.

you are so money and don't even know it.

another woman will be by shortly

It sounds to me like the alcohol is the root problem. She may fear that you lack guiding principles (especially without religion) and takes the alcohol as prime evidence.

She wants the best for you and fears that you will not work hard towards becoming a strong member of your community or family unit.

If you want things to be better you have to commit to change. It's OK to not be religious. It's OK to drink alcohol. But it's not OK to bring it into her house.

Do as well in school as you can. Find other ways to help out and be productive, make it routine.

Above all else, forgive them if they wrong you in the days to come, prove that you can be the kind of person they hope you to be, religion aside. Give them a chance to accept you once you have shown there is nothing to fear.

Things look bleak now, but in a few years you may look back and say that today was the day you turned it around and saved your future. This trial will be forgotten.

Well, you tell your backer that you got jumped by those kids. If this is gang shit, they can't have their people getting jumped. So you tell those people what happened and will still probably have to work off the debt. You can't go unprotected. You'll have to keep cash stashed securely close to your body. Keep some petty cash in your wallet for the stick up man to think he's got your stash. Once you have the cash, you're going to need a pistol. These kids got cash off you once, they'll be back if your backers don't take care of it. Or, you know, stop selling drugs and whatnot.

Its just a game lol. Add to that the girl has got something up with her, the boyfriend needs to be more understanding.

I've been together with my wife for 14 years actually.

I’m not a fan of kids being born into things. Every one is allowed to make their own choices in life. I’m in the same boat as you OP.

One step at a time! Get tested. Figure out your finances. Create a plan then leave.

>have never seen a post about someone cheating where one of the top comments didn't involve getting tested for STIs

True.

But look at all the lower-level comments.

The proportion is different here.

I have never seen a post about someone cheating where one of the top comments didn't involve getting tested for STIs (oof, double negative, mean to say it is always one of the top comments). Because it's always good advice.

Training for the Darwin Awards.

If he only wanted to have sex with women, he still wouldn't be okay to have sex with women other than the woman he was with. Being bisexual just doubles (minus one) the people he's not allowed to have sex with and still be monogamous. It's not being closeted to be bi-sexual and monogamous. What are you even thinking?

Because you didn't talk about this guy, you talked about bisexual men.

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He was fucking everyone in the group of friends. Guy just couldn't put his dick away.

Okay walter

It’s not your fault. You weren’t working with all the information, you were just doing a very kind thing for your SO. I imagine this outcome didn’t cross your mind when you thought about what would happen.

You’re right about these things being hard to talk about. You need to pull it off like a bandaid, or it’s going to fester inside of you until you burst from the emotional stress.

“Sam, I know about you and Leo. This is how it makes me feel..”

How you found out really isn’t relevant, you can tell him, and if you feel the need to defend “I was so shocked I needed time to process it before I could talk to you”

All I meant to say was it isn’t your fault, apologies for getting tangential.

There's no way you should have paid for that. There is a breakaway in the hose that stops gas so it doesn't spill out from the pump. It's super easy to pop back on. You got robbed.

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> I mean that some person on the post itself will remind the OP to get tested.

Of course. I don't claim otherwise.

But here, we have MOST replies saying it- which is frankly, extremely suspicious, as that's NOT the norm with MF cheating.

>I'm not one of these people.

Since these biases are usually subconscious (the same way people often hold subconscious biases against black people- including black Police Officers), how do you know that?