I'm curious about how he ended up cutting ties with an entire group of friends.

What's the matter why couldn't you just work at KFC like a normal teenager? Child Support payments already?

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Right? I've tried the ole roll-it-back method many a time but I always go back to not. I don't know which way that super soaker over pumped stream is going, that's dangerous. Plus the final drips always come back to you. Who wants that?

Unless my wife brought home a lady, expressly told me to and with a notary present, ordered me to have carnal knowledge with her… I still wouldn’t till she did first. I’d still be hesitant.

Dudes a cheater, doesn’t matter what team he swings for, or both.

You did a good thing for someone you felt had no friends of their own (I hope you also have your own friends), to expand their social circle.

You didn't make the decision to cheat for him, or to lie to you.

Never be ashamed for acting in ways that should make the world better.

“Craving something you had no way of giving him” is a stupid ass take and contributes to the narrative that bisexual people are always cheating

“I think he’ll understand why you read that conversation”… uh what? Boyfriend is a cheater why do we care about how he feels about how OP found out.

Being bi or gay is not a pass to cheat if you're in a monogamous relationship, no matter how far in or out of the closet they are

You didn’t eff up. You did a kind thing reconnecting your boyfriend with an old army buddy after he lost other friends. You did nothing wrong. HE effed up. It may be that he’s never been attracted to men before and that’s why he’s handling it so poorly, but that’s a him problem. Just sit him down and tell him what you told us about the cat picture leading to text messages. Explain to him that you won’t allow yourself to be cheated on and either they split up so you can work on things (only if YOU want), or he can pack his things. But again I say, YOU DID NOT EFF UP!

Take as much time as you need to heal. I’m sure you had a whole future planned and you’re being ripped from it with no fault of your own. Snuggle the kitty while wrapped in all the blankets, but never, and I mean NEVER, blame yourself for this!

Like.... maybe whatever he fought with his friend group over?

Also: maybe just pause playing Pokemon for some time until he caught up with his game, assuming he feels like playing it again. I would probably not want to start over for some time, but it depends on the game and my mood. However, if my partner deleted her save, that wouldn't make me feel any better at all. There is no reason to that :)

Dunno why were being downvoted but maybe they think im hitting on you. Which im totally not btw.

Seen your update and im glad youu two communicated well afterwards. Managing stress (wc he got from your call) and disappointments are tough for some people, and I am proud of you two for talking it out.

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Op don’t make the same mistake I did. He cheated on me before we got married. I forgave him and said it was my fault. I know now that it has nothing to do with me but I forgave him anyway. We got married and he cheated on me after we got married.

We are getting a divorce because I’m so unhappy. Life is so short and you shouldn’t feel lonely when you’re partner is sitting next to you. He has become a stranger and I ask myself sis I ever really know him,

You've been on a real roller coaster, yikes! I'm glad your friend came through for you, and you were allowed back home, so you have a roof over your head.

The letter to your therapist was very well written (expressive and assertive), and I'm glad they seemed to listen.

Going to keep tabs on your account to see how you're doing. Bibbidi bobbidi boo! https://tenor.com/bg2sX.gif skeleton fairy 😂

I see what you did there.

Straight up faucet

And if he'd had a gun the chances of someone ending up dead are astronomically higher, instead of a broken finger.
Great advice /s

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26 year old virgin* discovers foreskin.

I think OP deleted his account because I can't click on his u/ and this post doesn't show the content anymore, does anybody has what he said in the post?

Yeah I would tell you to fuck all the way off!!! Why didn’t your parents raise you to respect women? I hope she dumps you. She deserves better.

You did a good thing, bringing back someone you believed to be a good platonic friend. He’s the one who chose to cheat, deceive you, and possibly lied about the nature of their previous relationship in the army

Here is a mental exercise that will help train your financial sense:

Having a good reputation (for getting work done well and on time) and a little money in the bank gives you confidence. It's extremely likely that you will be alive tomorrow, and so it's a pretty safe bet to leave future you in a slightly better position so he won't ever have to make such moral compromises. If you think about it that way, it might help you get your gut feelings on board with your long-term plans.