Oh god I didn't even think about that. Now I feel even more sick

Get tested immediately. An ex boyfriend of mine was cheating the whole time: with strangers (men and women) from Craigslist while not using protection. It made me sick and I felt so violated. You need to leave this twat immediately. You deserve better than someone who would betray you. Take time to grieve the relationship and the future you lost. This was hardest for me. We had a house that we would drive by and say one day we would move in together. We had our future kids names picked out. It literally turned my whole world upside down to find out. But it was for the best that I found out before I actually was married or had the loser’s kids. Be grateful you found out before that, too. I’m here if you need to talk.

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My first thought would be don't stay with a cheater. That's obviously your decision to make based on your life arrangements.

One thing you need for sure is to get tested. Being cheated on always brings the risk of STDs.

There's no competition, you can't compete being the person you got cheated on with a man or woman. It's not something you didn't do or something that was lacking on your relationship. It's the commitment you partner doesn't have and it's the lack of care he has for you. Someone who loves you, won't hurt you.

None of these is your fault.

That happens at my gas station too but we don't charge people for the new hose...

Well at least you didn’t kill anyone while driving home! Fucking idiot.

His reaction is understandable considering 140 hours went into that data, and applied context. Get over yourself. Go never speak to your wife like that lol

Get tested for STI's

That sucks but it’s not your fault so don’t blame yourself. Cheaters gonna cheat and he’s fully responsible for his own actions.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. The way other ND folks seem to be the only ones able to actually understand what you're trying to say while everyone else is just downvote bombing you is really telling.

Ya know, fair enough. If that was what I did this for, this issue would be way easier to solve.

LOL

How do u know he is exposing the toddler u reject?

I am aware that what you're saying is very valid. I am aware that my ideas may change but I simply cannot see that happening. I believe (sometimes ignorantly) myself to be a very careful person, I like to think of what-ifs all the time, as a sort of preparation. Me returning to religion hasn't crossed my mind as a what-if, though. Although my talk with my mom has very much come over as a rash and sudden decision, my very first serious doubt of religion came about when I read a fictional book when I was 12. It has been very slowly and gradually eating at me that I cannot grow up like this. What seemed a few years ago like something I hoped to grow out of, in all perverted honesty, has now turned into a reality I have no choice but to embrace. The reality I speak of is not my belief or disbelief, it is the relationship between me and my family. I cannot and do not see my disbelief as something that may change. At least not yet, and because of that, I am afraid.

Lol I clean my bong 2x a day. Shit gets too nasty to smoke after a few hours howbthe fuck do you guys even smoke such filth

i read the update where you said:

> A bit upsetting that people assumed our relationship was on the line over this. I never predicted that to be the case, as him and I have an extremely healthy relationship.

but earlier you did say

> And now I'm worried I destroyed our relationship over my dumb decision.

doesn't it mean that you also thought your relationship would be over?

Religion and the lack thereof are something you grow out of, grow back into, then usually come to a realization more deeply about later in life.

It is COMMON for 18 yr olds to question their religion and the way they were brought up. It is COMMON to become an atheist at this age, just look at the trope of the angry college freshman. There is a reason for this and for you, the focus is your religion, but for many, it's politics, religion, sexual orientation, sexual identity, social status, or goals. This is just a short list, but I believe it's long enough for you to get the gist.

The point I'm trying to make is that at 18 yrs old, this likely feels like the first real step into your own skin that you've had or discovered for yourself. That's good, you should embrace it. But take some advice from someone who has walked your path, and is able to look back on it. It is very unlikely to last forever. When we shed the fallacies of our youth or past, we often turn around and remember them fondly years down the road. It is through this looking back that you can find the truth in the lesson of w/e it is you were pulling yourself away from. For you it's your religion, for me it was the expectations of my parents, for others it's something, and for some of us who are unlucky, they may never find it.

If you would allow me to, I would give you some advice. If not, please disregard the rest of this and just know that I wish you the best in your journey. If so, then I would say. Do not take unto yourself such rash judgements as the belief that this is a viewpoint you will carry forever, I find that this is rarely the case. Do not put the burden of such rash judgements on the feelings of others. In everything that you do, be true to yourself, but realize that does not necessarily mean everybody will agree with you. Loving someone, means understanding that they may not understand you, and loving them anyway. This is a difficult road to tread, but one that i find is usually worth the walk.

Best of luck to you, and I hope you find the way forward that helps you through your situation.

Just do you

I’m amazed by this! So where you are (I’m assuming US because you said gas) you can sit in your car while it dispenses. Wow!

Can’t do that in the UK. You need to press the handle or it stops. That’s truly idiot proofing it.

Every day’s a school day!

When I was a kid, I borrowed a friend's copy of Pokemon Snap.

He told me not to overwrite his save (duh), so I played through the game only pausing and not turning off the console.

The problem was when I beat the game this way, and it autosaved at the end!

He was not impressed.

So don't drive for 15,30 days after smoking weed, got it.

I can't imagine reacting like this if I found my partner in this state. Your BF is fucking up here, not you

It's really awful that the Pokémon Company refuses to allow users to back up their Pokémon saves, allowing things like this to happen. They should know how attached we get to our Pokémon and how painful it can be to lose them like this.

As someone that manages a gas station (11 years and counting), it happens quite frequently. What is perplexing me is that they charged you $80? We have a maintenance guy come out and reattach the hose to the breakaway and that's that. As long as the nozzle wasn't damaged, it's really isn't that big of a deal. Yeah it sucks the pump is out of commission (I only have 6 pumps at my store lol), but it happens.

I attempted to fix it myself, but got doused with gas and was like "eff that, let the maintenance guy do it" 🤣