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toodlesandpoodles t1_j9d5n0n wrote

Do you not know how tides work? The tide cannot be high all weekend long. Did you keep checking at about the same time each day and never consult a tide table?

I guess the positive part is that your kids are porbably not going to be in a hurry to go back, saving you the hassle.

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CunnyMaggots t1_j9d3zdt wrote

Lol i donated my Keurig to a thrift shop because mine kept growing algae in the reservoir despite not being in the sun. Got sick of trying to pull out all the little parts in the bottom of the water thing to try to scrub it out.

I use a steel pour over filter now. The coffee is a lot better and cheaper to make.

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lutiana t1_j9d31qu wrote

I've seen fishermen get stranded on rocks because they did not keep track of the tides. They either had to jump in and swim (very dangerous around rocks like that) or wait 12 hours for the tide to drop. They chose swimming. Thankfully no one was harmed, but it was really hairy for a bit.

Tide charts are your friend when visiting the beach and ocean.

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DbleDelight t1_j9d16ov wrote

I would suggest finding a therapist who is experienced in dealing with CSA Trauma. Just a thought I had while reading, is it possible that your mother was also abused and is deflecting so she can pretend she had a normal family unit?

See if there is a local Youth Outreach who can help you with housing and supporting you.

You are brave and strong. Don't let your mother derail the progress you are making.

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AdFamiliar6862 OP t1_j9cwirt wrote

Thank you so much this is great advice, yes I’ll have to tell this to my therapist so it’s documented but I don’t want to involve social services or the state because I don’t want to exacerbate the situation or anything like that and just keep the drama to the minimum

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Eveningangel t1_j9cvh5p wrote

Ok, I don't know the UK healthcare system, but if you have another session write exactly, without metaphor or vitriol, how that encounter with your mother from start to end made you feel and how afterwards your mother made you, a minor she is responsible for, homeless. Tell your therapist in writing how you were harmed and your safety endangered due to their actions. Mail a copy to their main office and to whatever board of ethics or certification is in your area. Keep one for yourself to give to your next therapist. You now have been traumatized by a therapist and the next one(s) need to know what the stakes are when they invalidate your discomfort and condone your mother's neglectful/abusive behavior.

Glad you are headed to a friend's. Stay safe.

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Zakal74 t1_j9ctbi9 wrote

Odds are very good that it will bounce back. I did the exact same thing at a new job one week in, but it was $500,000. I'm really not any kind of a financial professional and really shouldn't have had this on my plate, but I was excited to try new things. Afterword I was sweating and shaking so bad, terrified to tell anyone, and just feeling like I was going to die. Once I finally told someone, (probably 20 minutes later,) they just laughed and called me a dumb ass for freaking out so bad. Money was back in our account 3 days later. It was a hell of a stressful 3 days for me though until I saw that balance show up!

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aussie_nub t1_j9ct9au wrote

I'm assuming it's like a credit card, right? The numbers are way bigger than the actual amount of accounts available so they skip many and have a fault check built in. At worst, you usually have to have the name match up with the account.

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