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bellesavage t1_j99t7pq wrote

Oh honey, this is everyone else's fuck up. Your mother is a piece of work, I can't even begin to unpack that atrocity of a parent. But your therapist?! What the ever living fuck. I would seriously consider making a formal complaint. It doesn't sound like you were given a heads up or asked for consent and you were coerced into physical contact with a person who subjected you to abuse and actively protected the abuser she was fully aware of. That's so incredibly messed up and wildly unprofessional. I'm so sorry this happened to you

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Strange_Writer_3963 t1_j99ljtf wrote

A classic tale of a horny young man who can't afford to leave the stable girl but really fantasizes about making a break for the exciting new one willing to share him and be his side-piece, for now.

Advice:

(1) If they both knew about each other and you were supporting them both, you might get to have your cake and eat it, too without being a cad. If you were very lucky and very thoughtful and very trustworthy.

(2) Your plans were already doomed before all of this. If you left G1 for G2 (even if you haven't wrecked your ship already) then the most likely outcome is that G2 and you will both be miserable as soon as her life gets worse by having to take care of you. You need training, experience, and/or education so that you can be confident in pulling your own weight plus helping your partner.

I am not saying this to be mean. I am trying to give you good quality advice: Be prepared to pay full price for what you want from people. Be strategic and work hard so that you can afford to be a strong contributor to any relationship. If you are confident and generous you won't need to manipulate anyone or lie to get what you want because you will have real bargaining power to just ask, and real poise to be gentle and polite when you are rejected.

Your story is the story of a coward and a manipulator, but you could grow up to be something better, and I hope you do!

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Omikapsi t1_j99iwa2 wrote

No shade on your course of action, and I don't know what you had available at the time, but in that situation I'd just dial 911, and start talking to the guys while you had the operator on the phone. Extra points for standing back and taking a few pictures before dialing.

I'm from Canada though, so that might make a difference.

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XCCO t1_j995fyz wrote

My general rule is, if it's just property, it's not worth my health, so I get what you mean with regret. However, I think as a whole, people engage in immoral acts without confrontation or consequence too often. That's why we see posts of police looking for young men who punched an old lady when there were people who could have detained him.

I say, good for those guys for helping you as you were in real danger, but I agree, hindsight tells you, record them, call the cops, give the best descriptions you can so they can face their legal ramifications.

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