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ThrowMeAway_97 OP t1_j97t4tw wrote

Reply to comment by Kraze1468 in TIFU By Saying Something I Should've Just Kept To Myself. by ThrowMeAway_97

This is the result of being the weird kid no one really wanted to be friends with. Then, becoming an adult with little to no experience with women. I try to use the knowledge gleaned from seeing other people's mistakes on the internet. But today, I joined them. We all do at some point or another, I suppose.

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CorinthiaAtticora t1_j97k0yv wrote

Reply to TIFU by getting banned from a club and losing a friend due to my autism by LightningMetabolism

What the fuck. There are so many things wrong with this, and how you expect others to treat you.

First, "predator" is a term for rapists and pedophiles. You announced yourself as this MULTIPLE TIMES and got confused when people took you seriously? The bouncer only had face-value to go by, so of course he was aggressive to you.

Second, you were already let into the club, and only then executed your shitty plan? Why?? You already got what you wanted!

Third, you are owed NOTHING for existing. No one has to like you, just as you don't have to like anyone. The sooner you come to terms with this, the sooner you can begin to function among others. You currently act as if your behavior should be excused, for some reason. Why? Because you're autistic? The bouncer didn't know that, and had no way to know that. Even if you told him, he could think you're some asshole using it as a convenient excuse, or he could deem you too inept to not cause problems in the club, so he'd kick you out anyway. All of your actions have consequences.

Finally, you're using your neurodivergence as a crutch. I highly doubt that you have "crippling autsim" - I was offended the second I read that. Crippling means that you cannot function at all, and clearly if you were able to make and lose friends, or go to clubs, I doubt that's the case. If you want others to take you seriously, pick your words carefully and accurately, or else you'll be written off as exaggerating.
Yes, you have a disability, and it greatly impacts your life, especially in comparison to neurotypical people. But pointing out what a lost cause you are, despite living around other autistic people who you've no doubt seen struggle to survive in modern day culture? That's so shitty. You clearly have no want to even try. You insist there's no way anyone would understand, and you're probably right - the people most likely to understand you, your autistic (former) friends, have worked to find a way to live alongside neurotypicals while you've decided there's no point, and everyone else has to find a way to live with you.
Guess what? Expecting people to like you when you bring nothing to the table - and even create problems for them, such as what you did here - will only end with them pushing you away.
You have to adapt to have the common sense that's expected of everyone. I was only diagnosed autistic at 16, and I'm 27 now. It took me at least a decade of constant masking, watching and learning to adapt, and I still am working on it to this day, and will continue to for the rest of my life. This world was not created with neurodivergence in mind, so we have to try to fit in it. It sucks, but we live in a time with the most autism awareness and acceptance that has ever existed. There are so many tools that you have access to that it seems you have rarely or never touched in the 24 years you've been alive.

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somewhereinks t1_j97ij5f wrote

Reply to TIFU: By moving in with a previous co-worker by [deleted]

Years ago I was told the easiest way to lose a good friend is to move in with them. It's absolutely true.

I had a very good friend that convinced me to abandon my comfortable one bedroom and co-lease a two bedroom. "We'll split expenses that way!" One month later he wasn't paying the half of rent, and buying food was a joke. At the end of the month he would approach with "I'm giving you $300" which wasn't close to even half the rent. He was spending over half in income on pot and even a lot of that was financed through payday loans. He wouldn't do even the most basic household chores like taking the trash out or washing dishes he soiled although he was home all day and I worked 6 days a week.

I had to kick him out. "Two can't live cheaper than one" isn't true, unless they both contribute.

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Head-Investment-8462 t1_j97arp0 wrote

Reply to TIFU by getting banned from a club and losing a friend due to my autism by LightningMetabolism

Do not describe yourself as a threat or dangerous if you do not want to be treated as such.

Before you call yourself something like a predator, stop and think “what does a human predator look like?” Because when I think of a person as a predator I think of a rapist or murderer, someone who will hurt me.

People do not like it when men try to act like alpha males. Be polite, not aggressive and assertive.

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Kat1eQueen t1_j97aetp wrote

Reply to TIFU by getting banned from a club and losing a friend due to my autism by LightningMetabolism

Predators in human terms are rapists. You walked into a club, shouted "Hey I'm a rapist!", got rightfully thrown out, came back and said "it's unfair to not let the rapist in", got your ass handed to you and lost at least one friend. They saw you as a threat because you loudly announced that you are one and you weren't singled out, you were being held responsible for your own actions.

Also alpha males aren't a thing. The person who came up with it in the first place debunked it himself.

Edit: calling neurotypical people "normies" is just the icing on the cringe cake.

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