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BroccoliPrince t1_j8ywb5b wrote

Shit happens. There's dozens of photos online of people who took MySpace selfies in the bathroom with a giant shit still in the toilet, or uploaded Facebook selfies with dildos in the background. Doing embarrassing shit that haunts you for decades is part of the human experience, think yourself lucky it was a snap and you didn't put it on the internet to be immortalised for the world.

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PLEASEHIREZ t1_j8yu4ij wrote

I had few friends in HS I move around a lot. You make better friends in university, and even if you don't make too many friends in university, you learn to make friends as an adult. Also friends can sometimes mean drama. As you age, you'll learn to appreciate yourself and a quiet life. You can dedicate your life to work and material possessions. You can dedicate your life to your family, and raise your children without distractions. You can dedicate your life to your community, volunteer work, fundraising, activism, politics, college instructor etc. There's so much you can do or be when you don't have friends or have few friends. Don't be sad, just have the confidence to do the things you want to by yourself.

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Darktyde t1_j8yply2 wrote

You can’t go back in time to deepen your previous friendships but you can grow from this realization and move forward. Your next big birthday is 21 (at least in my country) but you could choose any age/timeframe you want. Just make yourself a goal: by the time I turn X years old, I will have 2-3 really good friends that I love and love me back.

And then work toward that. Discard people who aren’t interested in you and find people who are, and build those relationships. Work on them.

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Miravek t1_j8ypjnl wrote

This.

I am close friends today with zero people from high school. The four people from high school I am still friendly with, I barely talk to, like maybe 1-2 times a year.

Plenty of time to make friends

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steals-from-kids t1_j8yk1rd wrote

I'm pleased to advise that you will continue through life gathering close friends along the way. My 18th I rented a hall for a party and 3 people showed up. Depressing at the time, sure. But now I laugh about it with friends.

Diversify your hobbies and social opportunities and you'll find people you'd never have expected would be friends.

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Joffridus t1_j8yimqn wrote

Hey man, I’m 18 almost 19 myself, and I’ve felt the same thing.

As I started college and started working, I’ve kinda realized most people you meet in highschool fade away when you graduate. Most people take off on their own paths and only some friendships really last. I have maybe 1 - 2 friends left from school growing up, and we don’t get to hang out or talk all that often.

Most adult friendships are made during adulthood, people change a lot as they age but once you hit adulthood you tend to balance out a bit more. People I was friends with in middle/highschool I could never be friends with today due to how much different they are than before.

I feel you though man, but I promise you itlll get better, I’m still working on it myself. We just gotta look at things glass half full

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Antassium t1_j8yiljo wrote

I hope nothing I say here sounds callous, but I think more people are in a similar position than you think.

I never left my country, but I had a similar experience switching schools every year.

From all the friends I had made, I really only talk to 2 of them seldomly. One tends to only message when it's convenient for them or if they need advice/something from me.

The best advice I've seen here that I'd recommend prioritizing is not jumping into another relationship until your mental state is back intact and to get involved in your community or hobbies to get out there. Most of your better quality friends will come from finding people who are like-minded in your current stage of life. It's common for some to be stuck dragging deadbeat friends from high school into adulthood with them. So, in a way, you have a fresh start from experiencing something like that.

I wish you the best in finding yourself. You're so young, and you'll experience so much growth and change in just the next few years alone.

You got this! 💪😎👍 (AND HAPPY F***IN' BIRTHDAY!!!)

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NeedsMoreTuba t1_j8ygd54 wrote

When I was 13 I spilled a whole bottle of nail polish remover in my lap and somehow it got into my vagina.

I don't remember the details, but I remember running into the bathroom and jumping into the tub to try to stop the burning with cold water. It didn't really help. To top it off, I was super embarrassed by how dumb it was to injure my most sensitive parts like that.

...These things happen. 🤷‍♀️

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Sonofmay t1_j8yfr1t wrote

This

I only keep touch with one person from high school and he is absolutely my best friend; and going to be my best man in my wedding later this year.

Any other friends I have I’ve met through games and they’ve come to visit (2 are going to be in my wedding as well!) or through work/my fiancé. Do I have a lot of friends? No and I don’t want to either; I’m more than content with my small little group of friends that I know I can count on and be myself around.

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TrueCrimeJunkie9 t1_j8yfka5 wrote

Happy birthday Hun. You need to hold your head up, not many keep up with friends they were with in elementary, middle or high school. I talk to some of mine on occasion, but never a lot. Now I'm 27, I only really talk to my friends I made within 6ish years max. You will always make friends wherever you go, it just takes some time and effort from both parties. I wish you the best of luck with future endeavors, and of course making friendships that will last, and make you feel like you aren't a 3rd wheel or an odd one out. ❤️

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