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You can just write porn, you know?

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OP is a brand new account, but this story has become a common trope

Well, girl, ya blew it. Never snoop if ya don't want to see something you are not able to handle emotionally. If you love him set up a fantasy night and surprise him with a realistic strap on. You say he likes anal...let's see how MUCH. You are the fembod. Fantasy's are often just that.

Don't read too much into what type of pron your bf is looking at. Maybe he's just curious or whatever. All forms of sexual preferences are available on the net and many check out types of pron they wouldn't prefer irl. You're both still very young, so both of you still have a lot to explore when it comes to sex.

As for the 'teen' part: that's very probably totally harmless. It's a category of young men/women, but all are (as long as it's a legitimate website) above the legal age, so no minors there.

As for advise, if you don't talk about this, it's going to leave a shadow over your relationship, as it's obviously bothering you deeply. So, the only thing to do is to be open about it and talk. Try not to be judgmental, but do state your concerns. After that, you can make up your mind on whether there is a future for the both of you or not.

Yeah so is childbirth

Appreciate the honesty. I did go to a therapist before, but not anymore ever since I moved away

Did you not read that they used a shataf to wash? Basically the same idea. OP just wanted to dry after using it tho

I don't want to be this kind of gf - is exactly this kind of gf.

He obviously seemed anxious and insecure about his porn searches. He didn't feel comfortable talking about it and wanted to keep it private, you should respect that.

But you plowed right into his privacy and betrayed his trust. You fucked that relationship up, because of your insecurities. He might not break up, he might even forgive you. But the trust is gone, and with that any future this relationship had.

You felt the need to go in his phone - insecurity issues. You immediately thought you find out he may cheat - insecurity issues. Your first thought finding the stuff, that he doesn't find you attractive - insecurity issues. Girl you got severe insecurity issues that need working on, in this state you are not ready for a relationship

“I lived an experience so I assumed everyone in the world had the exact same experience”

This guy has been making these posts for over a year. Without even looking at the link I can tell you it’s most likely an Asian girl shaking her butt. He has some weird fetish with posting this stuff

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Sounds like a you problem

I agree that the whole thing is just bizarre. Accidentally wiping backwards? Does she have muscle spasms or something? I'm so confused

You need help. There is no such thing as ‘showing your affection’ through non consensual touch. You’re not showing your affection because it has no regard for the people you’re doing it to. If you were showing that you care, you’d take into consideration how the other person actually feels. Therapy is a good place to start.

So slow down on the assumptions about his sexuality and the world ending. For a lot of people porn and only fans is just a harmless fantasy.

On the other hand he may be pansexual and he hasn't told you. That doesn't mean that you need to break up. Unless you can't deal with it.

There are really two things you need to work through. One he's spending money on Only fans that clearly he doesn't have. That's a big issue.

And two whether you want to be with him and whether he wants to be with you.

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Now you have to include a question about dancing technique for bonus points

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If anyone says anything, you can say that it was your way of confirming people were actually reading your email.

wait so what kind of corn does he like

Reminds me of a friend who squatted on nettles in the dark...she doesn't recommend that either

Maybe he’s bisexual? I’m sorry you’re going through it all right now