Good god, I had a stroke trying to read this.

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Punctuation does wonders OP

You were 34f 2 hours ago

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There's a lot to unpack here, OP. The biggest thing you will need to tackle is betraying his trust and went through his phone. That's not going to be a fun conversation for either of you. However, it's something that is going to need to be done if you want to continue in this relationship. And the longer you wait to bring it up the worse it's going to be.

It's a shame he didn't feel comfortable enough to open up to you but sexual preferences can be a touchy subject for people, especially depending on what the preferences are and what their upbringing is.

Now as to what you found, I would not be too concerned based on only what you saw. Just because he likes x doesn't mean he doesn't like y and z, too. I'm other words, what he searches for has no bearing on whether or not he's attracted to you. That's something you two will also need to discuss. There's no reason at this point to indicate that he does not find you to be beautiful, sexy, and attractive so please try to stay calm and keep an open mind when you talk to him. Getting upset will only make him want to close himself off.

Finally, the search term 'teen' doesn't necessarily mean you're too old for him, either. It may be simply that the teens of that group have a more feminine appearance for him.

I typed a lot, but what I'm trying to say is you need to talk to him and if you love him you need to be accepting of whatever he says to you.

Finally, though, if you two are living together and sharing expenses while barely making your bills and he's hiding subscribing to web sites that is not okay. He shouldn't be doing that and breaking your budget while you two are trying to build a future together.

Yum 🥥🥥

Hold up, the teen part on those sites means 18 or 19 and is super common and doesn't really mean much of anything. Search for that all the time, and it's probably a suggested search. Nothing really out the ordinary there.

The other part is a little less usually but probably a lot more common than what you'd think. Might just be an experimental and fantasy kind of thing and by no means does it in any way indicate he isn't attracted to you. He might just like some variety. It was just a search.

Sit down and talk to him about it if it bothers you. The other piece of this thought is that you did go snooping, so you'll also have to address that.

Again, I would not be freaked out about it.

As for the spending money thing that could be sticky depending on what you've already all agreed on as far as that goes. If it's only some of his own personal spending money, then oh well. If it's like a whole hell of a lot, then that's it's own thing and he may have an addiction and that's not cool if it's eating into other needed things and that would also be a talk.

It's not like this has to be over unless you really just think it needs to be.

Fr.

Let’s not be hasty though.

Enjoy a coconut 🥥 🥥 🥥 or three.

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Yeah, but, are we talking teen like 18 to 19 or something on a whole different level?

Wow.

What a post.

YOU Got a lot going on in your lil punkin’head right now. I suggest you not react for the next few MINUTES, HOURS, DAYS, and just take some deep breaths, bring your focus to the present.

& sit your ass down!

GOOD.

The sky is not falling my dear little fried chicken friend.

It seems like It may be, and there’s definitely some crazy clouds, thunder, and other shit, however, THE SKY IS NOT FALLING.

Eat some chocolate, drink a little bit of tea or “?”, take some Benadryl, and get some sleep.

You can read all these exciting comments in the morning after you’ve had a night to Decompress a bit.

Got it?

GOOD.

SEE YA SOON

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Something you may not know about guys, a lot of guys at least, is that we start viewing porn generally from our early teens, so, over the years that Man Woman porn doesn't do it anymore, you know, it can get stale and boring.

That is sort of the danger with porn nowadays, it is so varied that you can find some pretty intense shit.

This is basically a long winded way to say that he might not be gay, instead, the stimulation he receives from porn is numbed and to achieve that same level of stimulation that he used to, he views more and more intense shit.

It's like saying because you choke your partner during sex that you want to beat them outside of sex.

EDIT: Teen stuff is a buzzword in porn, it usually means amateur, not industry produced, even so, half those chicks look like their pushing 30. I don't personally seek out teen stuff, though it is pretty common in titles.

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I think the whole issue starts when you can't seem to use the word porn. Maybe you're just not ready to have these kinds of conversations.

Joking aside, the only real issue here (you seem to like watching porn and not mind him doing the same) is the fact that he's effectively spending your money frivolously. That's the real conversation that needs to happen. Everything else I honestly think you're overreacting massively.

Is the relationship otherwise healthy, is he a caring partner, does he listen, do you feel supported, is your sex life ok?

If no - you have other problems and better reasons to leave. Take care of yourself!

If yes - leave it, people are entitled to their little secrets, like their choice in, err, corn. If it helps, the... cobs? Are usually (depends on how good moderation is on those sites, since they will typically purge illegal stuff) mature corn cobs actually. Probably your age in reality. The teen thing is cringe, but if you think this necessarily makes the guy a... seedling lover? ... it doesn't really.

Don't pry into other people's secrets unless you have really good reasons to suspect something harmful or criminal is going on and you're prepared to make an intervention. Nothing good ever comes of it, otherwise.

I'm a dude but I have never misjudged the size of my own ass when wiping. I can't even fathom how that would happen, it's your own body. I can understand if you are drunk out of your mind but a sober person should not misjudge the position of their asshole.

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Yeah and it’s creepy af

Literally on every porn site's top 5 searches. It doesn't mean kids, it means 25+ in tartan skirts and white tops. Chill.

You’re 20 chill out and break up. Maybe he’s bi, maybe he’s gay, maybe he’s just exploring his sexuality and that’s all okay. It also doesn’t mean he’s not attracted to you. However, you’re not comfortable with and that’s okay too. The reason I mention your age is because it’s very young and there’s a lot of life and relationships to explore still. This one doesn’t seem like a good fit but it’ll be alright. Good luck, OP.

Yeah it's called "the ring of fire"

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