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I don't know about in the US, but here the photograph must be professionally taken and stamped with the business name/date on the back

Not a FU.

1. The photographer can use makeup or powder or spray to dull your dome.

2. If the photo is rejected, the photographer will re-shoot the picture for free.

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Alllll of this. Do not ignore this comment.

So let him be nice.

I think he's just genuinely concerned for your well-being. I think your stress and anxiety are making you see a hidden meaning behind his words that are not actually there.

Try to stay in touch with him, if he ghosts you then it's over. But don't beat yourself up before that actually happens.

How I read his text wasn’t him being scared off at all. I took it as, “I’m giving you the space you need to heal, but want to let you know I am here and thinking of you.” Because if he were scared, he most likely would not have reached out following you telling him you needed space. It seems he wants to keep the connection open.

If you are in a place emotionally to reconnect, send a message or call him letting him know how you are doing and thanking him for reaching out. That you appreciate his support.

Unrelated but do you even know what TL;DR means?

"Use a white or off-white background without shadows, texture, or lines"

OK. I wasn't sure about it. Well in that case, I'd modify my picture in Photoshop to have a higher contrast between my head and the background. Then, I'd use my portable printer to print it.

Passport regulations define the background.

Yeast infections suck so much it'll go away in a week or so but your man is definitely sounds like the love of your life

Did you actually have an honest conversation with him about how you feel - about him and this current moment of your existence? If the answer is no, then from what I can read here you're assuming far too much about how he feels.

You may have omitted some details about how you "pushed him away" but from what you write, he's still reaching out and trying to stay connected with you. Identify what you know and what your anxiety is communicating. Be mindful about these voices. One serves you, the other one assumes and produces worst-case scenarios as absolute truths in order to protect you.

The voice of anxiety does not care about what's true, it cares about avoiding any potential risk and danger. It may have told you he's permanently gone just to make sure you never have to grieve losing a man again.

Take a deep breath.

Disengage mentally, just for a minute, with your family situation. Then, with clarity, think about this:

1. Has he actively or verbally informed you that he no longer wants to see you?
2. Shouldn't any sincere and healthy relationship be able to survive the disastrous moments of life?
3. Are you assuming that you know how he feels? Is your (very understandable) anxiety causing you to make these assumptions?
4. Are you pulling away out of fear that he truly sees you and all the mess you're in? Are you afraid to truly be seen?
5. Do you have to be perfect and in a perfect situation in order to be worthy of romantic love?

Once you make up your mind, take another minute to make an informed decision.

If you want him back, your course of action is easy and simple. You just have to tell him so. If he can't take that you're in a rough spot, trust me, he's not worth the effort. And if he rejects you for any other reason, you should still feel empowered because at least you found the courage to follow your heart, to speak honestly and show up for and honor your own emotions with action. That is powerful. Courage is powerful. And being courageous means putting yourself at risk.

If instead you realise you don't really want him back but you're just panicking that you've lost someone who supposedly is nice and you're beating yourself up about a lost opportunity, well... I'm sure I don't have to say more. :-)

In any case, the only thing that helps is to make a concerted effort and a decision to move forward. Either with or without him.

Can't you use a non-white background for your picture?

>wet wipes, wet wipes.

also major lol, you might not see it now but shit happens
i hope he didnt say it exactly the way you said he said it that was kinda rude

wet wipes, wet wipes.

Some people are just decent human beings out of the gate. Try asking Kim where he stands on this whole situation, maybe you aren't as fucked as you think

From your post I don't see anything that indicates that the guy is just being nice and is no longer interested in communicating with you. I would say the opposite... if he messaged you those things it seems like he wants to be supportive and is not scared off. Did you leave something out that indicated he isn't coming back?

Maybe you are projecting these feelings onto him since your grandpa pushed you away so you assume he would do the same. Seems like you are in a difficult headspace right now and need to take some to for yourself to figure things out. Seems like the guy is understanding of this so you haven't fucked anything up. Take the time you need, but you can still talk to him and just take it slow.

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Use a Matte finishing spray for make up. It's an old tip I heard from a boarding school administrator when we asked how he stopped his shiny head from reflecting in photos. Apparently back in the day you would pat your head with baby powder then apply hair spray but cosmetics have evolved since the 60s

Just an opinion here, Grandpaw might be experiencing early dementia. Ppl can turn mean and have inexplicable behavior in the early stages. Good luck.

His concern very well could be sincere of him. I'd say to not overcomplicate it and explain your feelings and what happened and why to him, communicate clearly, and try trusting him - I know it must be incredibly hard when you're dealing with an abuser in your household. Let things bloom from there. Even if he pushes you away, at least you tried - And won't have to live with your feelings of "What could have been" forever.

How do you know that he is just being nice? How do you know that it is over? Has he said so? If not, talk to him, you're both adults.

Just think of Dwayne Johnson or other proud bald men. Own it.

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