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TommyTuttle t1_j8kpkbb wrote

Ok, answer me this:

When was the correct time to tell her?

Was there ever, at any point, a time when that information would have been well received?

I’m guessing you’re having trouble answering that.

The fact is, people have pasts. And if you want to be with another person, those pasts are going to be there. And you both have to be okay with whatever happens to be in one another’s pasts.

No lie was ever told. Would the truth ever have been accepted? Or would that have been a dealbreaker no matter when you told her?

Sometimes there just isn’t a right answer.

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richcallie t1_j8kovai wrote

Your FU was not disclosing that info earlier without being asked. IMHO you would be disservicing yourself by letting go of two people who are so special to you to avoid 'possible' discomfort in future relationships. Just be upfront from now on and let people decide for themselves if they are secure with you still maintaining friendships with ppl you have a srxual history with. As long as you are no longer keeping secrets I don't see how this would be a problem going forward.

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