she sounds like a loser. I'd go back to having threesomes with lena and jack tbh

I was coming to say that, unsarcastically lol. I woulda called his poopy butt to come clean his own mess the second I lifted the lid. 💩

> who’s to tell that they are still not doing it?

OP, when he gives his word to Sabrina that they are monogamous. Whether she thinks he is honest or a cheater is up to her.

At least 15 Courics🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣

I definitely feel like you guys are not as platonic as you think, I have never asked my partner if he ever slept with his best friends (both m/f), because I never felt any sexual energy between them. You just need to be up front with your next partner, and maybe work with your friends to remove this sexual energy between you guys if you want the relationship to be a truly platonic friendship.

Sometimes we say ultra dumb shit and, well, it happened to you. It sucks, but it happens, and we apologize, and we do better in the future. :) As a note on your other comment, that was not dark humor. It seems that term has been misinterpreted to be an excuse for "saying really shitty and fucked up shit" a lot online.

I sincerely hope you find all the joy in Hogwarts that you're looking for, please post back once you have it!

You glossed over an important part: No water also means you didn’t wash your hands. I’d dump your nasty ass too

/s

>“How could you keep it a secret from me”

Its your decision what information you make known to anybody. That doesn't make everything you don't say a secret, just private. She is not owed all and every piece of information about your history because of the nature of her relationship to you. Absolutely OK and understandable to keep this and other things private imo. You are still allowed to be an individual in your relationships.

>“How could you allow me to sit in discomfort and suspicions for this long”

If she was feeling discomfort, its on her to voice it. It makes no sense to remaining suspicious if you haven't even tried to ask the question.

>“How could you be alone multiple times with past partners and think it was okay”

I think its OK. I think it comes down to personal boundaries and trust. If you don't have it, you don't have a stable relationship. You were holding up your end of the monogamy deal. If she doesn't trust you, that's on her.

>All her questions were justified, all her emotions valid.

Ehh, valid is a strong word. I would say they are understandable, but there is too much projection of her own insecurity for this to smell valid to me. I certainly understand her shock and hesitance to ask and accept the situation, and you could have seen it coming and headed the problem off differently, but I think cutting contact with two good friends because of a partners insecurity is always the wrong move. Pushing people away for the benefit of others is how men end up alone. Think of yourself first.

>If Sabrina doesn’t come back and I remain close with Jake and Lena; what happens if ever I enter another relationship? Do I lie for longer?

You didn't lie the first time. But you can certainly see now how keeping your information private that you know will cause pain in the future is not the best call. Just do it sooner before it becomes a big shock, and probably maintain stricter personal boundaries. I operate on the principle that if someone knows enough to ask a question, then they deserve to know a 'complete enough' truth. How complete is up to my (high, I think) moral standards, as long as it isn't so incomplete to be misleading. Your situation is not something I would reveal on a first meeting, but pretty soon after compatibility is established to give them the opportunity to judge if it is compatible with their standards of what is acceptable behaviour/boundaries in their relationships.

Yeah, the fuck up was not telling her much sooner. Good luck, hope you can work it out. Updateme!

She probably was fresh outta poop knifes. That one guys family probably got all Costco had left in stock during COVID-19

This is why you sign at the bank and not the dealership.

The poop knife did it for me. You seem to be knowledgeable in this department. Which knife, pray tell, is best for fecal slicing?

yeah see that's unappealing. I could forgive once or twice. but if it was an normal thing I'd nope out of there quick.

Honesty would have saved all of this. If you were up front Sabrina would either be able to trust you and it not be an issue or it would have ruined things at the beginning. When both of you didn’t have developed feelings.

I wouldn’t have a problem with a partner hanging around old flings unless they gave me a reason to have a problem. Not telling me about it is one of the reasons to have a problem.

Remember that time when you were riding the motorcycle and crashed and smashed up both hands, putting you in two arm casts? Remember I had to wipe your ass for a month, and we switched to you bending over in the shower and me squirting you clean with the showerhead? Good times... good times..

Yeah but the fuck up wasn't the shit so much as him forgetting he was supposed to clean his shit mess from her bathroom, and just went home leaving her to clean his mess.

I don't really understand why you'd damage, or outright ruin good friendships over this. You didn't really hide it or lie, you just really didn't feel it mattered and she did. Kind of dumb really, not like you're actively sleeping around behind her back.

It's your decision to make, but throwing away your closest friends for one intimate partner that might not work out is a pretty bad bet. Even if you win the girl, you've lost two friends, both of who were intimate with you. You lose even if you win.

Good luck though. Hope you get whatever it is you think is a positive out of all of this negative. The real fuck up was the conclusion you somehow kept coming to and followed through with.

My best mate is someone I was intimate with and my fiancé knows. Your FU was secrets instead of addressing it early and letting them know you chose them and will continue to do so.

you wrote more and read more in this thread, with more effort

than the actually contract

well they have to deal with shit.

I suppose the point hes making is that things happen during relationships you both have your ups and downs and you'll see eachother at your worst.

if something like that breaks her, well.

but to be fair, being hit with an ambush turd is not the most pleasant thing either

A lie of "omission" was just made up by a bunch of people who don't like to tell other people stuff.

Wives clean their husband's shit?

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