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Fluffanutz t1_j8itpi4 wrote

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Edit: Just to confirm, I still believe you lost your “alpha” status the second you came on your own face and she laughed at you.

If she has already told her friends, then she will likely show them your grovelling texts as well if you do follow up.

If you absolutely have to message her, maybe just try not mentioning it and see if it gets brought up. There’s nothing wrong with being a virgin, being a desperate virgin is not a great look though.

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Boychic t1_j8is4q6 wrote

You should have told her upfront, that was your only fuckup. Don't push away your friends because of your mistake, and you need the support. On your next try, after you get to know someone and they meet your friends let them know that happened. It may be a deal breaker for some people if you tell them upfront, but that just means they're not right for you.

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bubba7557 t1_j8irn6l wrote

Unless Sabrina has only slept with OP, there is high likelihood she's been in some contact with someone else she's fucked in her past. I don't see him freaking the fuck out about that. The problem I see here is Sabrina. She's not entitled to information about his past what so ever, so long has his behavior with her once they are together isn't negatively impacted by that past. So if he can be friends without letting the romantic shit linger in a disrespectful way to Sabrina it's really not her business where OPs dick once went. Now I think OP was generous by offering the full truth, he wasn't obligated to do so but he wanted to not have omissions between them and that's a good thing. The fact Sabrina can't handle OPs truth is again her fuck up not his, not Jake not Lena. I'm my opinion he should give Sabrina space, let her decide if her insecurities about him having friends with an intimate past, that he's willing to be honest about with her, is a deal breaker. If she can't handle who OP is she either 1 shouldn't ask and 2 shouldnt try to make him feel bad about her fear the he'll prefer them to her. Look how OP writes about all of them, he adores Sabrina and if she can't see that she's blinded by her own insecurity. He's hurt bad by losing these two close friends, and Sabrina's insecurity and jealousy is the root of that pain. The problem isn't anyone here but Sabrina.

My opinion, let her go, keep the friends. If she comes back maybe you all can set some very loose ground rules for a little while that let Sabrina feel like the past is the past and she doesn't need to worry about an intimate future between the friends. Or they should just fucking include her too and make a big happy intimate friendship group. What OP is suggested though, that's the thought process of someone that's been manipulated by the insecurities of another. I repeat, Sabrina is the only problem here. It doesn't sound like anyone else did anything wrong. Their past together makes one person uncomfortable so now all three of them have to suffer? F Sabrina.

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daniferi t1_j8iriwv wrote

It seems it is a lesson from her: don't want only sex or you got no sex. Next time don't try to push that sex thing. It is better for you too. There are plenty situations where you can feel incredible while you stay virgin.

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CCtenor t1_j8ir052 wrote

I hope to god you’re using “alpha status” in a self deprecating manner.

The concept of “alpha male” is absolute bunk but, it most definitely isn’t alpha to lie about your sexual history because you’re ashamed of who you are so that you can get into somebody else’s pants, all to give yourself a facial.

Absolutely none of this is alpha status or energy, in any universe, and if you’re not being ironic, you’re sound like whatever beta males dominate in their minds.

EDIT: since it looks like this was deleted, and just in case, here was the reply I made to OP’s response to me

> If you’re the type to post this online, and not realize that using “alpha male” to describe yourself is a warning sign to others about how much of a “player” you mistakenly think you are, they already know, and are probably laughing about it right now.

> What you should be doing is nutting up and learning to accept yourself. I turned 30 this past December. I’ve only had a single girlfriend, and have only ever had sex once in my life.

> The best thing you can do is stop caring that you’re a virgin, stop caring about being an “alpha male”, and stop caring about what your friends think about you nutting on your face.

> If your friends care about this to the point where they actually think less of you for this, get new friends, and remind them that every girl they kiss is another man’s but they’re savoring.

> Quit being a pathetic alpha, and just be yourself.

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FishInferno t1_j8iqa2w wrote

Honestly I think you should’ve communicated that you were a virgin. If it’s with the right person, they’ll understand and it won’t be a big deal. Trying to act dominant and “alpha” when you clearly don’t know what you’re doing is not going to make you look “alpha.”

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