Well now you know if you go missing your guardians are going to have a problem with it. As if you didn't already know.

Put them in dementia care and never visit them again.

What if they have a daughter with an addiction problem because they were shit parents? We don't know anything about their life or OPs life. We can only say from OP's posts is that she feels her grandparents are overbearing towards both their daughter and granddaughter.

After my mother died, I lived alone for a few months in the house where I grew up, with my grandmother in the house next door. On this one particular summer night, right after I turned 17, I told my grandmother that I was going to go into work for a little bit to fix a fence in the swimming pool (I was a lifeguard, and the fence was a safety hazard). Work was literally one block away; I took my car just so I wouldn't have to lug my tools.

I came home one hour later, and there was a police car in front of the house. She had called the police to report me missing when I had been gone for all of about 50 minutes, at a location a block away.

my mother is my main legal guardian, they are only side ones since i live with them as well as her. there should have been no issue if i got permission from my own mother and had family besides her (such as my brother) who also knew where i was/have my location and told them so when they called. my grandparents chose to ignore it all and blow everything out of proportion anyway.

This better be bait. No way can this be real, if so your a very shitty person.

It is a crime even if your boyfriend is a minor. Even if he isn't liable, then his parents are. If your grandparents are your guardians, don't be surprised if there's an issue with you missing overnight. You aren't emancipated yet. Deal with it. Everyone does.

my mother has legal custody over me. my grandparents are my guardians. what my mom says goes over what they say legally, but they don’t think so and choose to ignore that. they only called the police because they weren’t happy with it. my boyfriend is also 17, it was not a crime.

Sounds like you need to have a serious talk about boundaries and rules with your grandparents. Boundaries going both ways. If they want you to follow rules which are too strict, they can lose you because you'll just move out when you're 18, so being mindful of your need for independence is important.

Thank you, boss

You too, chief

Have a wonderful day, big guy

OP said in the post that she did tell her parent and got explicit prior approval.

Your grandparents are liable for your well being. Your mother's permission doesn't mean anything and you know it. Technically your boyfriend committed a crime and contributed to the delinquency of a minor. You've gotten off fairly unscathed, be more mature next time.

When you turn 18, file a restraining order.

they used to call the police on my mom when she was in her mid-20’s, lie about her being “off her meds”, homicidal, etc, just to be able to know where she was and keep tabs on her. im really worried that’ll happen to me.

Run Yuna, run!

You're a red flag with legs, my dude.

accept her as she is or carry your ass.

i think the worst part for me is that they called my brother, who lives nowhere near us but still has my location on iphone. and he told them where i was and that i was fine, because we had a conversation about all of this and we tend to talk every night. yet they still chose to do what they did. they are not scared of me ending up like my mom, they threaten me with it, but i really do love my mom and i’m proud of how far she’s come especially considering the things they’ve done to her for much longer than they have me.

One day, when you’re a mom or grandmother, you’ll empathize their actions. Better safe than sorry.

It is possible they are just a tomboy. They may be an egg but it isn't cool to imply that just because they like suits and basketball that they can't be cis.

my mom was actually not okay with me spending the night with him at first, but after a few months more and a few scattered discussions, she agreed to trust me on this so long as i agreed to be responsible. she is not damaged goods and her opinions aren’t to be overlooked because she is trying. she’s doing amazing and she hasn’t touched anything in 6-8 months now. she raised me, my grandparents did not, which is why i’m not a narcissist. i wish i could provide more information on the numerous other things my grandparents have done to me and to the rest of my family (one incident even involving my younger brother moving in with his father halfway across the country), but i fear that kind of thing would be too specific. they also specifically stated that when i turn 18 and even older they are still going to call the police on me if i do something they do not approve of, whether it be moving out of their home or other actions.

TL;DR: "I am the problem in the relationship, not her"

Huh, the weird thing is media and hollywood always made me believe that you can't file a person as missing until 24 hours has passed.

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You deserve all the hate you're getting op.

You are a piece of shit. You coerced her and forcefully undressed her (sexual assault)

I hope she runs and never looks back. If you want someone more feminine to protect your stupid masculinity, date someone else instead of forcing it on someone else.

You have traumatized her and abused her. If you care about her at all, apologize, leave, and never contact her again.