So, if they were full naked it would have been OK?

No problem, thank you for clarifying

fine, so which category does a person who seeks out boobs to look at on the internet resembles to? someone who meets another nudist person and actively seeking out to stare at them or someone who just happen to meet them and look at them but not at the genitals in particular? again I am not calling the OP a perv on the nudist beach. but he is not done looking at genitals. he immature and wants to play. that is fine, but not in a relationship she wants. btw i think she cannot demand that he becomes mature. it happens when it happens.

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If you have high bp or cardiovascular issues you might wanna avoid armour/np thyroid but otherwise i wouldn't worry about it. Armour does have therapeutic value, some people have difficulty converting t4 to t3 for several reasons.

do you get yelled at for looking at porn?

I just make more noise so my family knows to leave me alone 🤠

Good for you! We seem to be in a similar place, although my doctor said I'm borderline pre-diabetic. Similar treatment, with Metformin (Glucophage) and an initial prescription of Levothyroxine with a checkup in 2 months to see how my thyroid responds. I'm hopeful that this, combined with going very low carb, can get me back to the weight I was before my back went out and I stopped being able to exercise the same way. Make sure you stay hydrated and pay attention to your muscles: if you start twitching, you may need to review your mineral intake, like magnesium and potassium and sodium. You got this!

I meant that in that example, calling it a rule vs a boundary doesn't seemingly make a difference in the outcome. A rule of: 'Cheat and I will leave you', vs a boundary of 'I won't stay in this relationship if you sleep with other people', is effectively exactly the same.

Jesus Christ dude! One of her “boundaries” is you looking at half naked women? Are you telling me you guys aren’t even comfortable enough with each other for you to watch actual porn and masturbate without it being considered crossing a “boundary” let alone just looking at half naked women? This seems like a relationship I wouldn’t want to be in, if you can’t even just be a regular human being and have impulses.

I did something similar to this this as a young teenager. My family and I were camping in a trailer, and I had recently been introduced to the awe and mystery of the masturbatory act.

So I was down there, going to town on myself, and my dad, from the other end of the trailer, yells “what the hell are you doing down there?” And I said “NOOOOTHIIIIIIING!”

The event continued. More slowly. More gently. 30 seconds later, “WILL YOU STOP IT?!?!?”

I paused.

I resumed. More gently. More yelling ensued.

No amount of slowness or gentleness mattered the trailer was like the web of a spider. The merest breath would trigger the monster.

I think at that point I decided to sleep outside. The beast within would not be denied.

I think I misinterpreted your comment tbf, I read it as `I insert a random & somewhere in the cc field` rather than `I put a sole ampersand as the content of the cc field`.

Yes that's true but if you want to get your blood sugar in control quickly going keto which is low carb is the way to go and then control your intake

Lol no, a boundary in this instance would be “if you look at naked women on instagram I won’t continue this relationship”. You can’t set boundaries for other people to follow, only for yourself. I don’t know the specifics of this relationship and conversation, I was just trying to explain the difference between boundaries and rules as I understand them.

Plant-based w/low fats & low GI food should work, if you ever decide to move away from keto. Last I read on this, there have been breakthrough cases of diabetes essentially vanishing & insulinoresistance being reversed.

I'll try to link the studies if I can remember later. For what it's worth I'm not diabetic but did keto for 5 years & it was the best I had felt mentally and physically my entire life. That said, keto is also not just "low carb", it's essentially "no carb", and I'd recommend a plant-based diet with proper macronutrients control over it.

None of this is normal casual dating/hook up behavior. From any of these guys. I’m sorry you’re going through this level of shit.

Casual dating/sex absolutely isn’t for everyone, but I’m not sure you can decide if it is or not for you based on this… because this… this is just men being crappy. And you’ll get that no matter how seriously you go.

If this hasn’t turned you off completely to the idea, try casual dating first. Go on a date with multiple guys in a week or so time span (and be upfront with them that you’re doing this and sex is off the table) and see how things go.

So the first guy didn't want a relationship, but was making constant passive aggressive comments about your sex life?

Honey, he's playing you like an asshole to MAKE you feel this way.

The second guy assaulted you.

It gets like that sometimes. But you contradicted yourself multiple times, so it needed to be pointed out. Have a good day.

What is the point of having different words if they don't actually have separate meanings?

I'm going to stop this conversation here, you won the argument. I don't know what the argument was, but you seem intent on winning it. Good job.

Personal boundaries are things like you mentioned, but there are also relationship boundaries. You seem to call those rules, I guess some could be called either, but rule to me implies something is wrong. No cheating is a rule. But a boundary moreso to me feels like "I do not feel comfortable going beyond this" For example, if my partner sleeps with someone else without checking in with me, that break a boundary, and it is cheating. If they talk to me first and I am ok with it, it does not cross a boundary. It is no longer cheating. No cheating is a rule, no problem so far. But cheating is relative to our boundaries.

Which part didn't you say? The bit I quoted from you, or the bit where you suggested that looking at scantily clad women on the internet doesn't count as cheating because the woman isn't involved:

>But you looking at arousing media isn't a "boundary" of hers. Boundaries are behaviors that involve her and make her uncomfortable.

Because you definitely said both.