It's just semantics, the difference between a rule and a boundary.

In a relationship I think of crossing someone's person boundaries as how you act towards/with them ("I don't like public affection", "I won't accept you telling me what to wear", etc.)

A rule to me, in a relationship, is behavioral limits one partner puts on another outside of how they are directly treated by their partner. Monogamy is a common rule. No porn, no Netflix cheating, no talking shit about their partner to friends, whatever.

But if you are using a working definition of boundaries that includes rules that's fine. It's not a big deal, and I probably shouldn't have bothered bringing it up.

Right, so it was a boundary then... because the result of breaking it was it hurt her and made her uncomfortable.

No that is definitely a boundary. Looking at women online is definitely a behavior.

You can say you wouldn't agree to this boundary, I wouldn't either, but you can't claim it isn't one.

Good on you for learning from it. I personally do not buy the "just forgot" excuse, because even if it is true it is just not good enough. Being better going forward is all you should do.

It is not an unrealistic boundary. It is definitely doable to not thirst online, nothing more difficult than just scrolling past.

OP is a jerk for crossing it.

That said, it is not a boundary I would keep. Not because it isn't doable, any decent person can do it without coming up with shitty loopholes or diet analogies; I don't keep this boundary with my partner because it would make us both less happy.

My partner and I both just comment on it when we see hot people, but we can only do things like that because we respect the other's boundaries in the first place.

Do you have ADHD or some other something that explains the bad memory?

This is a grossly common manipulation game they play, and it is absolutely never an accident.

Well now you know.

Sex isn't something you should feel guilty about - you wanted to try something so you did. Nothing wrong with it.

He stealthed you?! Am I getting this right? He had sex with you and didn't use a condom, but you thought he had?

That's sexual assault. I'm so sorry that happened to you.

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I thought you were going to end up pregnant to one and not know who.

Or accidentally part of a gang.

Na, this is just sex. You do you and whoever else.

Proper management of diabetes requires controlling carbs, not eliminating them.

Low-carb is extreme. It's also a fad diet. The majority of studies state that as fact. The human body wasn't designed for low-carb. Just because your particular medication requires it doesn't make it less extreme overall.

It's not a bug. I only ever use with the Outlook client so haven't tested with similar apps. I have been in my line of business of 18 years and it works for me so am not going to change now and cause a crap storm like the op.

He has diabetes so ya I would make that switch.

In my experience it’s best to stick to second base if you have multiple partners, until you figure out which one you like

Fair enough! That's why I asked first before popping into your inbox. Thanks anyway! I'll check that sub out. I didn't know it existed.

Beyond tired of these fanfics on this sub

You’ll be ok just take time for yourself I can relate to this to some extent and time fixes things but stop going to the ex I did that for too long it damaged me

I am going to respectfully decline. You and I don’t have a doctor-patient relationship and that would cross over into giving medical advice on the internet. You could try /r/askdocs as an alternative.

I had a colleague accidentally email a customer the results of some medical test he'd undergone instead of a report. Recall didn't work.

I think this only works if both sides are on exchange, with outlook connecting directly to exchange, it's enabled on both sides and there are no mail servers in between. Otherwise it doesn't seem to work, even when you're using O365 as the client. You just get an email saying 'name would like to recall the message'

You can have `&` in email addresses, practically anything is valid via quoted-printable. That sounds like a bug in the email server or client.

Can I message you? I have some questions about hypothyroidism, someone close to me was just diagnosed and sees a specialist next month. I have a lot of questions on what to expect.

We can certainly have different opinions, but I’m actually a family doctor and am qualified to diagnose and treat hypothyroidism. I do have some patients on it who came to me already on it from other doctors and I do leave them on it if they’re stable, but I certainly don’t start anyone on it.

The endocrinologists in my health system recommend against it and refuse to touch the stuff. The only one who does prescribe it is the self-proclaimed thyroid guru in the area who runs massive panels of unnecessary tests like alternative medicine practitioners do and then prescribes everyone NP or Armour thyroid as a first line. The fact that this is what they started you on without even trying levothyroxine first suggests you have one of those docs.

So I’d be wary. There are a lot of docs out there practicing outside the guidelines even though they hold legit degrees and board certifications. So any time I see a doctor doing something like that, it immediately makes me suspicious.

And hey, maybe yours is an exception. As I said, the metformin is legit. But NP thyroid as a first-line choice makes me suspect they’ve gone down the alt med rabbit hole.

Touching something isn’t the same as eating something