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redbucket75 t1_j7o6puh wrote

Reply to Tifu by looking at half naked women by [deleted]

It's your relationship, you get to decide together what it looks like.

But you looking at arousing media isn't a "boundary" of hers. Boundaries are behaviors that involve her and make her uncomfortable. This is just a rule she has for you regarding your behavior generally while in a relationship with her. If you're ok with that, cool. If not, talk to her about it.

Relationships have lots of rules. I think this one is stupid but it's not my relationship.

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mmohaje t1_j7o21qg wrote

Reply to TIFU by Sending a Confidential Email to the Entire Company by CriticalCrit

I can understand and appreciate the embarrassment. But seriously, in situations likes this, just remind yourself, no one died. You're not a surgeon who lost a patient. I've seen some SERIOUS blunders with terrible financial ramifications but all these things at some point just become a story that's told with no person attached to it. But the most important thing for this to hold true, is to take responsibility....you'd be surprised how forgiving people are when you say I messed up, I'm sorry, how can I fix it. It's the ones who mess up and then create so much drama blaming others and deflecting that tank their reputations and are talked about for years.

I also use this 'tool' when trying to assess how much emotional energy/embarrassment/stress I should attribute to an incident. I ask myself will this matter in 10 mins, 10 hours, 10 days, 10 months, 10 years. That usually quickly puts things into perspective for me.

Sounds like it all worked out your way. Well done realizing your mistake and immediately escalating.

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Saberise t1_j7nzagr wrote

Reply to TIFU by Sending a Confidential Email to the Entire Company by CriticalCrit

I used to work for an elderly doctor that had zero computer know how. So I would print his emails and he would write out his replies. I was supposed to forward an email to someone else with a few comments. After I hit send I realize it hadn’t prompt me for a recipient. Looked with dread and sure enough I had replied to the sender instead. Luckily the comments weren’t that bad so my boss was even teasing me the next day.

Ever since them I’ve used a 2 minute delay rule for outgoing emails except if I put my initials with / between them and than it had no delay. Anything important I can double check if I have concerns such as if I have the right person or for those times I forget an attachment.

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