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greenweezyi t1_j76r1jn wrote

For real though. I played on the boys golf team in high school and loved every competitive second of it. The teammates and coach all “protected” me in case someone tried picking on me. I was extremely fortunate.

But looking back, my mom essentially sent me into the woods with boys. It could’ve gone very wrong but luckily it was a great time

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Convergecult15 t1_j76pi4i wrote

The problem isn’t any specific group or activity, predators are everywhere. Any high level competitive industry that children are in will constantly remind children that there are a dozen kids waiting to take their spot. Acting, sports, private schools, anything that separates children from peers through effort. You need to raise your kids to be confident when dealing with adults, and provide them with the security and support they need at home. Children have no frame of reference for normal adult interactions in these settings, they question and convince themselves that whatever’s happening is normal for what they’re doing because it’s happening to their peers in these environments as well. Be the driving force behind your child’s confidence in addition to their passions, let them know they can talk to you, ask them questions. If your kid is ever an adult outside your presence ask about what happened in an interested way, coach them on how to handle interactions after the fact. “Oh coach just wanted to talk about my form in competition” ok what did he say and how did you respond? “Oh that’s a great way of handling that, you can also try saying xyz next time” normalize them telling you about private conversations with adults so that they’re comfortable coming to you about those moments, don’t interrogate or pry, but make it natural for them to tell you what is said and done to them by others. You can’t protect them at all times, but you need them to trust and be forthright with you.

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gonewild9676 t1_j76k64u wrote

There's lots of traveling involved going to meets plus they are together a lot. There's also a power dynamic where the coach is highly respected and there's a line of athletes waiting to use their services and if you don't do everything they say then you'll be replaced.

Plus there's a lot of grooming involved and they start slowly to make it seem normal and then cross boundaries. At that point the athlete assumes that if they complain that they won't be taken seriously and it will be the end of their careers.

It's similar with modeling. It might start with modeling jeans. Then they are told they can make more money modeling swim suits. Then underwear. Then model these panties but cover your breasts with your arms. Now just your hands, and it devolves from there. Then once they have topless pictures they threaten revenge porn and they are trapped.

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