So... surrogacy?

She did changed her password and over the week of me trying to win her back she was out and about “living her best life” like being extremely drunk to the point of blackouts and I had to go pick her up and not staying home and me just constantly just trying to fix us… she says she wants to stay but isn’t sure anymore about us

Stop posting this.

Stooping to someone elses level is never the answer.

Seek counseling, theraphy to help you leave her. I did when I couldn't leave my abusive 5 year relationship in the past. I took it for almost 1 year before I could finally de-attach. He beat the living shit out me and tried to kill me multiple times and would make me feel responsible, that i made him do it, would apologise and tell me he was never gonna do again, buy me things. Take me on vacations, would tell me anything i wanted to hear just to do it again.

When you say sorry and repeat.. sorry looses the value and becomes a weapon.

You can still work out the custody if you wanna see the kids. I understand it is hard for you at the moment. You have loved and cared for them this far.

I hope you leave her. She dont give a flying f**k about u. It must be hard for you to see the actions that say exactly how she feels about you. You should fight for no financial responsibility with the kids. You can get you name removed from their birth certificate even. This way your not financially obligated. Just be present and that should be more than enough. Do this while the kids are young.

Im pretty sure she will do anything to persuade you not to do anything that can fuck her.

This woman is straight up using you and will do anything in her power to emotionally work you as she has and knows you will be a bending backwards for you.

You cant fix things if you are apart. Suck it up. Show her and tell her you still love her and want to remain a family.

He's clearly letting you know that he's not committed to this relationship. He likes you, thinks you're a good catch, a good investment in his future...just not quite good enough to make up for all that possible puss he's passing up. This is a guy who will cheat if he has the opportunity.

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The sad thing is that often toxic relationships have big lows, but they also have big highs. You get addicted to the good times, and they’re easier to remember than the bad times after things end. Honestly, it will pass. Just break all ties, it’ll only make it harder if you don’t.

I get you OP! if I had videos like that I could definitely forget about them. I can forget pretty much everything.

I had a tie in my underwear drawer when my now husband came to visit for the first time. It was supposed to be a gift to my ex from my little sister (like 12 years old at the time) she gave it to me and I just put it away and forgot about it. that happened like 3 years before I even met my husband. Opened the drawer 1000 times after that without even noticing. But my husband found it instantly when he looked in the drawer and thought... I dunno, that I was secretly longing for my ex, saving little mementos or whatever.

Could have ended the relationship, I had no way to prove that it was how I said. Now that he knows me he also knows that I could definitely do something like that.

Is your relationship worth fighting for though? He sounds really lame? And if you don't want to have sex in 4 days that early in the relationship I'm not sure you're that into him unless you want even less sex later in the relationship.

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No like I said over the years I do realize I haven’t kept up with her like I should, dealing with issues like the typical man who hides his own personal problems and I told her I want to change but after a week of me trying to be with her and show her I want her back she told me she didn’t want to be with me and I can’t force someone to stay as much as I want her too. I cried to her and begged her to stay but she didn’t want to and I finally told her yesterday to leave but now she reaches out to me I’m just so confused

Yeah, right. I read your other post. Is he one of your three male roommates who grope you, steal your underwear, ejaculate in your food, made you walk outside topless, and played a "sausage tasting game" on you?

Yeah, right.

You can't. Some people just don't want pets because they don't want to care for them and they find them inconvenient when they want to travel or do things.

Tell him to fuck off. He clearly has feelings for you. And his behaviour is totally inappropriate.

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It might be tonsil stones . They smell like death. Only treatment is to remove the tonsils

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Yah man. Keep it together for the kid. Get on a workout regiment and spend negative energy in a positive way. If she "doesn't feel the connection" that is time to get a couple's therapist and figure out wtf is going on.

BTW there is always "not another guy" and they always "swear there isn't" if there is another. Probably like 95+% of cheaters say these things. I would snoop honestly.

Have a couple kids, and let them do the begging for you.

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You’re showing these kids that “love” means being ok with the most extreme form of disrespect. Whether you’re their bio dad or not, you’ve raised them. And you’re showing them, whether they realize it now or not, that abusive, manipulative relationships are ok. I get your hurt but come on man, grow a pair. She doesn’t love you. She’s just really good at manipulating you because she knows you won’t leave her.

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