I do hope you are trolling otherwise this is one of the saddest things I've read on here in a while.

Chances are you are stuck paying child support for these kids if you were married at the time, but it wouldn't hurt to talk to a lawyer about your options.

And talk to a therapist, it's one thing if you had an open relationship but to be happy with someone that has so little regard for you and for birth control? How many more strangers' kids are you willing to raise?

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Not exactly first but I think second or third maybe. Although that's not even important, he obviously didn't explore his sexualty that much.

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There’s more to it what I posted was in a nutshell she says she still wants to be with me but she doesn’t feel the connection anymore. But I have a good gut feeling about another guy although she swears there isn’t

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We aren’t going to get back together.

Do you want to stay friends?

If you do,

I need to take a step back before having a friendship with you. We can’t be friends while you are insistent on winning me back

Thanks, I will ask him that!

More rage bait. Get a hobby kid.

I hope this is a shit post. You're not asking for any advice either.

And that means you can just cheat? It isn't a long time coming when you're in monogamous relationship, tell your husband the truth and go be with that guy then. You show no accountability, no remorse for you actions, no feeling sorry for your husband that he is raising children that aren't his and living a lie. You're beyond help, hope karma slaps you back.

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Ok, I'll try. I'm just concerned that he'll do things just to please me and not really enjoy them himself :(

I dm you. Everyone who is asking please if you want to know ask me privately I don’t want to tempt people who don’t want to use it or to trigger anyone thank you

He may just be hung up on that term. Ask him what's the difference between "my girl" and "girlfriend".

Sidenote, I'm not a fan of my girl, sounds possessive and even stronger than girlfriend tbh.

That's dumb.

I'd give him the old "nah fam"

Maybe for our son but not for our daughter

Its a bit odd. When your married with kids it makes more sense.

For now just politely decline

Without more details I'd say you have definitely done the right thing. It's never easy breaking up with someone but sometimes it's ultimately the best thing to do, for both parties.

Prepare to keep forgiving.

With my wife, she’s living now with my wife’s mom. I don’t think I was a bad person or a bad husband I had my flaws but so did she I never asked for perfection.

Wrong. Being almost 30 if this was encouraged by others and often, it is more embedded in her brain as appropriate, even desired, behavior. You need to open your mind as well and realize not everything is black and white with you being correct just because you think so. If you didn't explain your boundaries and feelings about it, how can you rightly judge her? If you can't understand this concept of growth and learning, you may be in for a lot of bad relationships thinking the other person is always the problem.

Thank you, everything you said is really on point! The only part I'm fearing is things staying this way. I have the patiance and would love to teach him new stuff.