How old is she? you left that out

Yes because it was a long time coming because it was with someone I’ve loved my whole life

Ugh I feel sick. You’re right

What's the website?

Thank you

I think it's gonna hurt for awhile but you'll get to a point where you dont miss her so much. I dont know the relationship but those red flags were probably just gonna cause you more pain in the long run. Just take it one day at time friend

Please respect yourself. This woman does not love you. You deserve for yourself as well. She just wants someone who will take care of her kids. Stop being an idiot.

Separate and move on with your life with someone who respects you. Because I will tell you this, once she finds a man who will stick around after the next time she gets knocked up, she is leaving your ass. And this is after draining you emotionally and financially.

Respect yourself. Find a therapist. And then find someone who will love you back.

Would you be this upset if it was anything else? Like a dog, a child, a cat, etc?

I have been married for 44 years. Only once did my husband say anything about my fluctuating weight and it hurt me beyond anything I thought could, which was probably the point. I had a great job, two kids under 10 and really low self esteem anyway. The pressure was immense, for both of us but he would agree I did most of the home and childcare chores. I cried and cried and when he came out of his probably alcohol induced moment of extreme bad judgement he apologized forever. But you can’t take that shit back, you have to make it up in another way. The comparison to OP story is that I knew I needed to lose weight and I knew I would. I gave him three choices, get your stuff together, we will sell the house and I’m sure you won’t want the kids, contest and it will take every last dime we have or the last one, seek therapy for your crappy ass temper and get your shit together. Show me written proof of these therapy sessions after the two weeks you stay somewhere else and figure out if you like being alone. He picked the last one, therapy was a freaking godsend for him, he worked out a lot of issues about his crappy upbringing and we have had a great marriage since. I say don’t do anything rash and try to talk her in to seeing someone. Otherwise good luck and remember, this too shall pass. If you are not meant to be together so be it.

Pass. I think it’s a little weird and wouldn’t do it beyond the usual planning group Christmas gifts or something, unless the in law and I actually do become friends and want to be friends. That’s my personal opinion.

I do know couples where the partner talks to the in laws independently though, and that seems to work for them.

If your bf wants to cultivate relationships across family lines, he can take the lead and start texting your parents and see how that goes.

Because grown ups in monogamous relationships know better than to sink to somebody else’s level.

I also think that's a bit odd.

All you can do is take it one at a time and ensure their is progression.

Are you one of his first experiences or something?

>but people start to show their true colors after a few months…

Sad to say this is fairly common.

Find a lawyer ASAP !

Spend time with her after she's no longer your teacher.

So when you introduce her two people you know, you can say she's my neighbor or your friend, instead of she's my teacher, and she's in control of my grades, so I have to be nice to her or else she might fail me

Oh I’m sorry.

Just move on man, no child support due.

Thank you for the words of encouragement I really need them

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None of this reads platonic and I’m a believer in platonic relationships

YES THIS!

I would think that too.. but he says he’s not ready to be bf/gf yet

Why thank you kind stranger💁‍♀️ i do my best.

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