Why only opposite-sex? Wouldn't you also be texting his mom, and your bf your dad?

I would think if you are exclusive, you are bf/gf

Don’t mean to discourage you! Just help. I’d like you to eliminate one terrible possibility. That he’s a true narcissist and NOT fixable. There are more out there that you’d believe. Watch some YouTube videos on the subject. Dr. Ramani is among the best. I was married to one for forty+ years and tried and tried and failed to fix my marriage. Just getting some distance has made my life better. Life short! Don’t just work on the relationship harder by yourself. I did and wasted decades. Don’t copy me.

So is the thing you’re not ok with is that they’re talking fondly about exes and cheating. Bc that’s gross.

"Have your cake and eat it" comes to mind. Unfortunately, I don't think this will leave his system, which is a shame because you're clearly doing all you can to understand what he wants/needs. You sound like you're handling this really well tbh - a lot better than most people. He thinks he's seeing greener grass when all he needs to do is tend to his own turf. I hope he eventually sees that before he throws away a good thing.

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You're even trying to justify your cheating? You really have no remorse at all, you are horrible, truly horrible. " It was a long time coming" I can't. If you truly have any form of love for your husband or any decency left in you, you tell him the truth, but I doubt you will

My thoughts exactly.. although he already told his family about me, and I think he says “My girl” but not girlfriend

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But she is almost 30, if she was 18 your argument makes more sense, right?

Thank you . And I dm you, I don’t want to say it publicly in case it triggers someone who’s been through cheating .

I'm confused. I don't see anything to worry about.

College or high school?

If high school, wait until graduation. If college, wait until semester is over(but you can keep up the flirting and talking)

Yeah no kidding please share.

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I have known a lot of women in late 20s who havent done that.

It's a bit weird having an extra step between committed and that label.

Asks what he means and the difference between the two. It's just a label. Does he not want to introduce you to hide family until you are officially boyfriend/girlfriend? If his friends ask him about you, what will he refer to you as?

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I don't understand why they are telling you this shit. In any relationship I've had no one has ever gone into that level.of detail. The most graphic share has been that they weren't fond of doggy style as a previous partner pretty much only did that one position as they liked to be dominant

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Crazy

You did the right thing!

"I was hoping if anybody has any insight on this issue."

There's 8 billion people on earth. People laugh different.

Why would you require your partner to laugh the same amount as you? That's strange.

Either accept him for who he is, or leave. He is just being himself.