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Ill_Eye5273 t1_iyeur5v wrote

Reply to Should I break up with him? by shiftenterspace

I don't know about you , but i would never stay with someone that doesn't appreciate me nor care about my feelings , i would just consider this as a red flag , he is being toxic af

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Objective-Shoe-1437 t1_iyeuqme wrote

Reply to comment by little_owl211 in I find it hard to respect my significant others when they tell me stories about letting themselves be treated disrespectfully by [deleted]

There’s a key distinction here. I don’t care about the actual thing.

I care about when they tell me how terrible and bad and gross it was and then talk about the situation/person fondly later. And, somewhat unrelated, also I care about hearing about how a person used sex as a tool.

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goodbye-toilet-cat t1_iyeuoj8 wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in Wife (32) and I (32) are very different when it comes to how we deal with anger, stress and disappointment. I am slowly starting to lose the ability to accept how she deals with it by [deleted]

Ok this sounds like a couples counseling situation, she has a short fuse and takes it out on you and that understandably is frustrating for you and resentments are simmering on both sides.

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Sad_Stuff8265 OP t1_iyeun21 wrote

Reply to comment by TyphoonCane in I need help from both men and women, please! by Sad_Stuff8265

That's great advice! I don't want to cross his boundaries ever. Little steps are completely fine with me, but everything I tried like communicating it verbally, trying to take the lead, tell him what I would like(which is nothing crazy I promise, I think I told him I would like us to try some other positions than just missionary, like any other) just failed. When we talk about it, he's really interested and enthusiastic, but when it comes to the deed itself, just nothing happens. I would love to hear some new tips on how to make those little steps!

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goatsnoatsonboats t1_iyeuefx wrote

Reply to Stealthed and Confused by [deleted]

Talking as a guy I think it's absolutely wrong to "stealth" someone. I also have a very hard time finishing while wearing a condom, it isnt that hard to say "hey I can't cum with a condom on is it ok if I take it off and pull out?" in which the answer has 99% of the time been yes. When the answer is no I just keep the damn thing on.

Doing something sexual to someone without their consent is a huge deal and it's kind of rapey to bait and switch with a condom like that and risking potential STD/pregnancy without approval just shows that he doesn't really consider your feelings and is a breach of trust.

This would be the same as a girl lying about being on birth control which to me would be a deal breaker.

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Lexotron t1_iyeudn7 wrote

Reply to Stealthed and Confused by [deleted]

Stealthing is a form of sexual assault and is illegal in many places. Not only that, but he came on your back.

He performed two sex acts on you without your consent. You should be calling the police, not debating whether to call him back.

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