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What she is doing is called stonewalling, and it is one of the main reasons for toxic relationships. Tell her you want to go to couples therapy because you are hurt by the silent treatments.

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No I don't think so, she just told me the furthest they goes is kissing in their relationship

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He told me when we where just a few months in the relationship that I can't communicate my feelings well I thought I worked on that but it seems to still be the problem. Thank youu for this, I want to go to his house but he says I should just stay home and think about what I've done. But I can't just stay still I really want to see him. Should i go or would that just be worse?

He also works full time. My girl goes to nursery. He earns double what I do and he owns the house. He drives me completely insane. He works hard but I put a ton in at home and it goes unnoticed

You should break up. You are not ready for marriage and want to screw around. Pursue the experiences and other relationships that you want. That is fine. But don’t string her along. You need to let her go to grow. She needs to be with someone who’s ready to settle down. You’re not.

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Regardless of whether or not he's cheating or not, you have no trust in this relationship so its almost guaranteed that the next person you meet will be an improvement

I can see that, since it is a very intimate topic, but with some conversation I very much think you guys will come to a place where you're both happy/satisfied.

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>Did I do the right thing by leaving?

Yes

> Is a cheater forever going to be a cheater?

Most likely, but good news - thats not your problem anymore

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I do, but I think his shyness gets the best of him :( We communicate a lot about it, it's just when it comes to it...the same thing happens.

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Have you ever talked with her about this at a time when she’s NOT upset?

>He’s a great dad but she doesn’t do as much as me at all.

No, he's not. He's fun dad who does all the fun stuff, but leaves all the actual work that it takes to raise a child to you.

The petty side of me wants you to start whining back at him that he does nothing around the house, except whine. Whine about his not doing chores, not helping with the baby, not helping with the cooking. Just whine right back at him.

The rational side of me says that you need to sit down with him and have a real discussion about an equitable split of responsibilities. You mention you work full-time - does he? What does HE contribute to the household.

First off you can't push past his comfort zone until he is comfortable moving that zone. In terms of being a teacher, the most gentle way you can handle the situation is to be very concise with your directions. You cannot expect to give him a list and he'll be okay the whole list mastered. It's more one step at a time, show me what you want. Tonight we'll try this. This time I want you to try doing this. Okay do you feel confident enough to try something new now? Those sorts of hands on slow build ups. Don't aim for him to be able to master every lesson in a single session. Aim to get a little growth out of him every session.

Thank you, this gives me hope. I did try to communicate before, during, after...he just seems so shy when it comes to it.

The silent treatment is not good, but when you say you broke the ceramic, didn’t clean it up all the way, and she noticed and got mad….

But then you say she gave you the silent treatment and wouldn’t tell you what’s wrong - you knew what was wrong, you apologized for what was wrong (which suggests there was some conversation back and forth), why did you need her to spell it out again? Is she just refusing to rehash conversations already had and closed?

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Tried that one too 😅 he was enjoying it(maybe too much)

Counseling. You need to learn how to communicate with each other.