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you sure your not just the bit on the side? confront him ffs

Oh and don't get me wrong I'm not the perfect individual either there's a lot of messed things that I did as well

What you feel is an unhealthy codependency.

Thank you I appreciate it

This is the brutal honesty I needed tbh.

Thank you for the comment, I thought that too so I tried that already, didn't work 😓

Couples counseling or break up.

I tried the whole getting away from her I spent 3 months working on myself getting my life back together one more paycheck and I'll have my license back I am pretty much dependent on myself now but no matter what I was doing she was always on my mind she was the only thing that I could really think about when I got off of work hence the reason I wanted to give us another shot I don't know how to put how I feel for her into words

You need to communicate better then. You could have just told him that. "Hey, still at the party. Might end up falling asleep so if I don't respond, don't worry"

>If I add a video to my hidden folder I never view it again

This implies she added videos of exes every time she dated/slept with someone. I'm sure she was reminded on a regular base since she was building a collection with different guys in that folder.

Well that’s one way of putting it

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Are you looking for a high five or something? He's not gonna change and you're not wasting your time anymore so unless you like being cheated on you. You did the right thing

She may have put them there when they were still together and forgot about them before they even broke up. Could definitely happen to me.

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Very simply put, he's being selfish, and you've been excusing it because you're confusing sexual orientation with fidelity.

A good marriage cannot be built by selfish people.

While things will very likely change for him as time progresses it's not wise to bank on that happening. If it doesn't your going to resent him and you'll be the ah for that. If you want to continue and see how things go there's nothing wrong with that. Be realistic tho in understanding his ideas may not change as much as you want. I think I'd be most curious to know how much he's willing to be flexible on for his partners sake.

I don't want him to worry that if i did fall asleep he might think something happened to me. I know it sounds dumb and unreasonable but that what i was thinking truly

Context is everything. These interactions are inappropriate because of your feelings and these feelings exist because of these interactions. Sending a McRib Meme isn't a problem on its face, but when he wants to put his reconstituted pork product in your sesame seed bun that meme is slathered in the BBQ sauce of betrayal.

It is the first few weeks. I told my ex that I still loved her a week after she cheated on me because my brain just wasn't processing how she could have thrown away our 4 year relationship that easily. But after a few months, I'm glad she's out of my life and I am already such a better person. Give it time.

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Tell them let them know what they are doing is wrong. Dont just ghost or ur seen as the bad guy

Why don't you ask him to give a relationship a shot? If you both have feelings, why not?