I know what you should ask for! A divorce!

For your own sanity consider blocking him. Even if it’s only for a week or two to give yourself some space to think without interference. Decide what you really want. Whatever you choose, you have to be able to live with. It doesn’t matter what him and hid parents think of the situation or you. Bottom line it, it’s his baby and he owes child support if you decide to keep it. Xx

Then you should’ve left.

Ask for a PS5 dude.

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end the fucking marriage, you dimwit

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Might as well open your marriage

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How do you expect others to respect you when you have none for yourself?

You hand a knife to a maniac and seem surprised they do not stop stabbing you.

Blow up her wretched life by ensuring everyone knows what her word, her vows, and her promises mean. Find a shark lawyer and get what you can from this sorry period of your life. Stop being a fool, you cannot convince the leopard to change their spots painting them as stripes instead. You will still get mauled.

Aw I think it’s cute that you both suck, it’s like a match made in hell.

Seriously tho, you keep bringing up what he did to you and trying to justify your actions because he did it first. But you completely lose the right to revenge and anger over it when you chose to continue your relationship. He did wrong, and you could’ve left, but you didn’t. You can’t move on from his actions or put the past behind you but you can use it to justify you getting even with him??? Yikes.

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Why should you accept that? In the end it is your decision. If it means a lot to you, why shouldn't he want to do that for you??

By opening up the marriage in order to keep it intact, it seems like you're falling into polyamory under duress. Y'all need to have some counseling.

Just because someone is bisexual doesn't mean that they should expect nonmonogamy.

Definitely no kids. I’m not able to have kids, he knows this, he doesn’t want kids. In his fantasy future, his wife lays on the the tiny beach and tans and drives the boat around and looks hot. And he hunts for food, and farms for food, and fishes for food, and chops firewood. It’s pure fantasy.

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I go to he gym as well. My biggest thing was I just lost my sense of self in the relationship always being a unit and not a person. I lost my hobbies, friends, just throwing myself too deep into the relationship. Take a step back and try to find some great hobbies. Maybe stuff you used to do. Friends you used to see regularly.

I took up building models, Playing games I didn't used to play, I got with a friend to learn blackjack for fun. Sometimes its just the act of looking for more activities that can be helpful and fulfilling.

Depression also plays a big part in making us feel like what we do isn't enough when in other circumstances it can be.

OK so when you go to see her this weekend, just say: I'm going to see Sarah now. If he asks how you know her or what the relationship is just say that she is your girlfriend.

She's not going to change either you leave or hang in there with hope she'll change.

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Dang she’s having it easy

LMAO, so she cheats and the compromise to "fix it" is that she fucks whoever she wants but you don't?

Of course she's lying now, she has literally never stopped lying and cheating. The compensation would be to GET THE FUCK OUT, DUDE

You should seek therapy first to address all of your trauma's that are leading you to be this clingy and obsessive. You won't be able to stop this behavior unless you address the source of it.

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That little voice in my head asks if I did the right thing by leaving, if cheaters can change, and I start to feel guilty for leaving him.