If you're too blind to see whats really going on or the fact that she doesnt value your relationship with her more than his by not accepting your wish of blocking a dude who she lets sends nudes and probably already fucked, then you deserve the prolonged heartbreak thats coming your way. Dont be a doormat and move on.

I see her everyday and we both 14, most of the times I see her on a weekend also been together 2 months

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Then walk away get a lawyer draw up papers with him giving up parental rights. If he doesn't agree then get him on child support. He can't have it both ways. Get a paternity test once the baby is born to prove in court if you have to that it is his make your life with out him it obvious he has some issues and your baby doesn't deserve that. So do good by your child. Grow up a little and except you decided to be a parent. If not it isn't too late to put the baby up for adoption if you know for certain you can not give that child a stable healthy life. Good luck

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Whenever i get home from drinking i always pass out so i was worried i couldn't text and say i got home. Me and my brother is getting ready that time to go home but he fell asleep and I just let him rest.

It is not necessarily stupid but I am trying to figure out what you need to tell him. Your concern leads me to believe that you think he will not want you to have a girlfriend, so the question really is: what does having a girlfriend mean at your age and stage.

If you are taking her on dates and having her over to visit, it should be quite obvious to him that you have a girlfriend. If that is not happening and you just see each other at school or something there may be no reason to say anything.

Can you explain more about your age, her age, how you know one another, and how often you see her?

This is amazing advice.

I did explain this to him previously, I try to think logical and not jump the gun, I was angry because he didn’t bother to txt me at all, and he was on instagram, I’ve never been a girl who needs to be in contact 24 hrs a day, that’s not me but he goes hours without responding. I txt him back and explained to him this again this afternoon and he’s not talking to me.

You’ve been with your partner 8 years and you don’t care about them at all? Break up with them, you’ve already went way to far with the coworker and from what I’ve read you have no intentions of making it work with your partner so just break up and do what you want but don’t drag them on

Wait how do you know who is the gf and who is the coworker? Are you a maid at his house?

Why do you think that?

Honestly, flirting online when you are single is harmless fun. Also, you arent giving him the attention he wants, but you maintain that you are open to fixing the relationship, its gotta be a bit confusing to him having to deal with this.

Now, I understand how you feel, but if you are as open to fixing things as he is, I would ask him about her and let him explain himself before you just dissappear.

My husband and I are in our 30s and have definitely lost our temper and sworn at each other before. Tempers run high in an argument, and often especially when there’s been miscommunication because not feeling understood is a separate frustration of it’s own. Once we’ve both had a chance to cool off we apologise and talk it out calmly and respectfully.

Log onto a porn sub on Reddit that features what you would like to try, and show him, tell him you want to give it a try. If he's a normal guy, he won't mind it at all.

You share a home and a life with a partner of 8 years. Giving room for another person to get between you is cheating. You've given oxygen to these feelings. Every conversation, message sent, meme shared, and stolen moment with this person is a conscious decision to betray your partner. This isn't an innocent crush where you like a coworker's personality and the way that their booty fills out their jeans. You've made many many small choices to get closer to this other person.

I would suggest couples’ therapy to get to the root of why. Partners often withdraw from sex because they don’t feel their needs and being met, or don’t feel safe and secure with their partner as sex is a vulnerable act. Something you could do, is make it clear you just want to have some intimacy, no sex, just cuddle, just kiss, to help build up the intimacy again without the pressure of sex. Show that you just want to be close to her, not to satisfy your own needs.

Roll him on to his back and ride him into the sunset!

We don’t. She said she got it from me but I don’t recall saying “do whatever you want” to her, genuinely. I do tell her to do whatever will make her happier when she asks me if she should do this or do that like read this book or that book or if she should start doing this instead of this. i make sure to say it sweetly and add a term of endearment at the end. i’m thinking maybe that could’ve hurt her? but she never seemed bothered whenever i said that. if she were, i’m pretty sure she’d give me hints right away.

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I see nothing wrong with trying to strike up a conversation with a stranger, asking if I can buy them a coffee or sit with them. They can always say no. Who cares if I come across as creepy to one person? To another they may like the company or be looking for someone themselves.

You are short time together and even if some of his future plans are unrealistic, he dreams of living in the cabin in the woods with his wifey, i guess that poops out his children and care for him. He will go on the hunt, why else have a cabin in the nowhere, except you start an horror movie, but then you also start to hunt...

If you already know that you will be not combatible longterm, why even keep going?

Talk to your friends and family about it!! They will tell you you deserve better!! Hopefully until you belive it!!

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He might just be the kind to have a lot of friends online. I'm that way. and yeah, I can bounce between Instagram, WhatsApp, Discord, etc messaging different friends while I'm there. He might see his chatting life as being different from his real life. He might be protecting his sanctuary when he's in that zone but not connecting with you there.

All that is mights and maybes. You know he had bumble but he wasn't afraid to show it to you and say what it was and why. Sounds like you weren't on the same page about your relationship. If you weren't on the same page at that point, I'm wondering if he fully understands how his behavior is affecting you. He sees himself as just chatting with some friends and checking out some videos and not realizing this behavior is tripping your suspicions from a previous bad relationship. Make sure you convey this to him. Make sure he knows that's not just you being some silly girl but the scars left on you by prior bad experiences.

You are being highly suspicious and your mind is definitely taking the ball and running with this one. But you've got a reason to be that way. Make sure he knows what it is and is aware that he's walking through a minefield if he keeps going on this way.