Everything has been going well until you started developing feelings for someone else?

Call it like it is: you're emotionally cheating right now.

Do you want your reletionship to continue or not? Its really that simple of a question.

Yes? Then stop interacting with this dam person.

No? Then break up your partner.

This is incredibly selfish:

>The only reason I don’t want to break up with my partner is all the drama that would come with it. Hurting them, having to move out or have them move out.

I don't want to break up with my 8 year partner because it will complicate my life... well, you've already complicated it. Deal with it.

That's madness, ask him what if it was your male coworker doing that to you?

From someone who's wife is more experienced (variety wise) than I was when we got together I think it's best for you to be open with him about your desires in bed and then let him take the lead regarding the pace that things go. Maybe just start with different positions, nothing crazy at first.

It might take him a good while to come around, but I believe he will eventually

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Nah this ain't about you it's about him being a piece of shit. Absolutely end it and find a better life without him.

Nope

Sounds obsessive imo. If my male bff were calling me everyday, texting me everyday, and prioritizing hanging out with me over his significant other I would no longer be his friend. It's not okay to feel neglected in a relationship because your partner is putting a lot of his energy into another girl.

Oh and if they're so close....why don't the 3 of you just hang out together? Seems like a very weak relationship.

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I would show him some of the milder stuff, think choking, etc. Try to lead by example with dirty talking. It's super awkward until you get the hang of it, but there's tons of porn online that he can use as an example (video and written). Communicate through anything you try, and try to guide him to do whatever you want him to do. Ask if he's comfortable. After sex, tell him how much you liked when he did ___. Best of luck!

He wanted to be exclusive and redownloaded bumble. Came up with an excuse and then cried.

You have a type unfortunately I think.

Although its very obvious that your being cheated on, a funny trend im seeing on Reddit is people saying "im the type to this or that" then doing said action as if them saying they normally dont excuses them. Either way, sorry for your discovery.

Seems a bit suspicious, especially when he told you to chill out while calling you silly..

What advice are you looking for exactly? You're already emotionally cheating on your partner and you know exactly what you should do.

That I have a gf Just worried about his response Ik it sounds stupid

What she said was rude. In a relationship, I'd like it to be respectful without telling the other person off or any other forms of resentment and dismissal.

I'm confused why it escalated so quickly. Do you two get into arguments over minor things like this often?

Maybe they are friends and not just coworkers?

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Tell him what?

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This definitely doesn't sound like a normal co-worker relationship at all. Carpooling sure, spending additional time together all the time, not normal.

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Couldn't have said it better.......

At some point your boyfriend will regret it