Why did you feel the need to lie about when you got home?

That's the hardest for me. I really really believe we both still have hope but know it's not best for us. I am holding my breath but I need to let go. What happened why didn't it work?

UK the answer to ur own question that why does he have a tinder, just that u r denying to accept the face thet uk the answer already.

If I am supposed to talk about condoms, well uk the answer to this question too and now that u have found missing condoms and different boxes been added to the drawers, well then, there is no better way to say this but he is cheating on u for sure

Leave him and u'll be happy for sure

I'm 60, I had 10 relationships, 2 marriages, and 2 divorce , so I've had a lot of experience. From what I read, she appears to have gone to great lengths to tell you what happened. I've been were you are in my younger days. Would ask questions of my girlfriends about the past relationships, this was a bad idea and it honestly was none of my business. The mind I'd a great thing and a terrible thing. After I was told something about my girlfriend past my mind would think of the worst, as you get older you will find this less of a problem. After I had experienced the worst, I decided this. Everything I started a new relationship I told my girlfriend " What you did in the past is your business and I DON'T want to know about, and the same applies to her.

Maybe you can meet her friend

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So you did cheat and are afraid of the consequences?

If this isn't fake I hope your husband does find out. Poor guy.

Is she still kissing him tho? Cause it sounds like it possibly? And that would be a red flag for me .

My first question to you would be: Is your dream to be married or to have a wedding? They are two different things in all honestly. The way you worded your post comes off as you want a wedding day and celebration, not really a legal document saying you're married.

As another user commented, a wedding ceremony could be had without the legal papers as a requirement. This is a very reasonable compromise in my opinion. I'm very against legal marriage myself, but if my SO really wanted a marriage ceremony, I'd acquiesce with no issues since it was important to them. OP, you should sit him down and explain that having a wedding has always been your dream and that you'd really like to have that one day.

So you’ve been to a male strip club while in the relationship but are upset he went to a female one? And you’re stalking his location throughout the evening to see where he’s at? C’mon….break up with him for his sake. This relationship isn’t built on the foundation of trust.

I second this, people who cheat don’t deserve happiness… this is coming from someone who’s been cheated on countless times after busting my balls trying to keep them All who ended up cheating happy. Stay together. Please.

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I said she could’ve simply apologized instead of blaming me because she meant it as a joke and that i was “attacking” her.

Saying you eat too many carbs is not calling you "fat" or a dick thing to say. Only someone who cannot take criticism would see that simple comment as insulting

Its not worth it unless you can get on board. Even tho it probably won't happen resenting his dreams or goals won't make a happy relationship. You both will be happier with partners who share closer ideas of the future that they both can feel good working towards. Its never gonna be easier to have a clean break as it's gonna be at this point. The longer it goes the harder it's gonna be to leave but the issue will stay the same.

> I saw that the gaydude sent him his pubic hair and told her he will f*ck her in the arse.

This stuff is really damn hard to follow. If she is getting pics of this dude's dick and he is saying "I will fuck you in the ass" to her that would cross a major boundary for me and I would instantly cut contact.

After 3 years you can ask to see her conversation IMO. If you saw "I will fuck you in the ass" you deserve some answers. Especially if he was a secret.

E: I will add. If she deleted everything I would consider the relationship over.

Scheduling sex works for some couples.

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Yes break up with him. You have known him for only 10 months and you are now finding out who he is. I would be making arrangements to move out immediately. Staying will come with finding out more disturbing and disgusting things about him.

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Context? What did you say before she said it, and what were you talking about?

Well if he won’t commit and won’t stay FWB then not sure what else there is to do but move on. Seems like he is not giving you any other option based on that.

She deserves better than a cheating liar for a husband, break up

“i’m christian”

cheating is a sin, lying is a sin, you seem like a performative christian. also not sure how paying for sex behind your girlfriends back is better than sex before marriage but you should seriously dump her (she deserves better)