This has to be a fake post lol

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They dated causally basically but no sex

There's always a small possibility that it will, but a couple of things to try come to mind. 1) counseling if you think it is worth it. 2) maybe let them know that this is something you need, and ask them to come up with creative ways to do it. For instance, setting a reminder to text flirts. Messages can be scheduled, so they could do a bunch in advance. Make it part of their routine. I know it sounds cold, but it can actually set them up for success if they take it to heart. They could start branching out and researching ways to do it. Find phrases they like on sites and send them to you with something like, "saw this and thought of you." They just have to get creative and see it as a challenge that is worth it. Reward the behavior you want, and that turns into a recipe for success.

Lmao guys pls dont feed the troll jesus. Pretty obvious bait post.

Your poor husband.

I view strip clubs in the same way as I do looking at porn: sure, none of us love the idea of our partners doing it but it’s just a fantasy and not cheating at all. These girls are literally being paid to stand around and dance naked while men pay to stare at them. It’s purely a transactional thing and no one is going to fuck anyone. I mean, there are places where you can pay extra for that kind of stuff but for the most part it’s just voyeurism.

Of course, you are entitled to your feelings but given that you have never discussed it and therefore never established it as a boundary, I don’t think you can really be too upset here. Especially since it’s his birthday and he was dragged there by his friends. He also didn’t try to lie his way out of it, which is a good thing.

If you want to establish it as a boundary, now is the time to do so but there’s no point in holding a grudge over something which already happened.

Your body just built and birthed an entire human being!! You are strong and amazing! Look at your baby and find the strength to put this man in your past.

What the heck is a situationship? And why is she kissing him?

Good luck dude! You deserve someone who enjoys talking to you :)

When I asked her block him or I'm leaving. She said I will distance myself but I can't block him.

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Is she spending time alone with him? Is she hiding her conversations with him? Does she talk about her relationship with you with him?

I think the idea of telling her to cut him entirely out of her life is out of line, but there should be very open conversations about what their relationship is. What does HE want the relationship to be?

I agree with you 100%, thanks again for the advice!

“I’m no longer interested” is more than enough information for him. No is also a complete sentence. If that isn’t a good enough answer than that itself is a good reason that the answer is no also. What I’m getting at it that you don’t need any reason, it’s your life and you get to choose who your together with.

I understand he can’t read my mind. The issue is I think that we had originally planned for us to go out for a nice dinner that night to celebrate his birthday. But then his friend invited him out and he decided he wanted to go hangout with them instead. I just feel upset that he would rather go to a strip club than celebrate with me

You have your answer. You cheated. You have advice, tell your bf before it destroys your relationship. If you want to be a coward then go ahead and cover up that you cheated. But you don't deserve him if you cheat on him so casually. He deserves better than you. He deserves someone loyal and honest, not cheating and lying.

this subreddit is literally called "relationship advice," I answered your question and called you out on how horrible you're acting towards your innocent boyfriend by concealing the truth.

Don't post on the internet if your feelings get hurt when called out on your bs.

You've only been talking for a month, I don't think she'd really value your opinion enough to change her behavior or somehow magically become emotionally available/present.

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Think self-respect is at the top of my list of my problems right now he has made me feel so awful about myself I can't get the awful thoughts that I'm not good enough and maybe this is the best it's going to get for me

hey, i’ve been in open relationships and they work as long as ppl are honest and respect boundaries (just like in any relationship)

I know that. But is it okay to hear it from your partner especially over an argument? We are both in our 20s. I would expect this in high school but definitely not where we are now. I’ve cursed around her but never AT her directly. This is a first for her too.

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Thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it

I'm definitely going to do this moving forward, especially since all of the reaching out with no avail has been pretty exhausting.