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The condoms are a very legit thing to ask about. Ask him about those and leave out the Tinder part.

If you have to hide it then you know the answer…

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Obviously cheating.

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You should tell your boyfriend. It's worse it he somehow finds it on his own.

Also guilt won't go away until you come clean.

i’m sorry you’re going through this, but i think your concerns are extremely valid and you have this hunch for a reason

Yeah, I know that part.

I’m debating whether to stay friends or cut him off.

In that case, I don't see anything wrong that stands out.

Ideally, you should have enough interest in a person to date them. After you learn more about them, your interest should increase... It just sounds like you're going through a normal vetting process.

You may have a smaller pool of things that trigger a development of interest than the average person. Nothing wrong with that. My only comment would be to maybe try exploring more personality types?

Someone else commented that this could be tool for you to seek validation. True. Worth thinking about.

What you don't want to do is settle for someone that you just feel "meh" about. Nothing wrong with seeking someone more appealing to you.

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You seem to know the answer to the question you're asking. Why does he have tinder? you know why.

Those condoms aren't using themselves and you should get tested.

You need to bring it up and be "So, you still have tinder and have went through quite a few condoms.". Prepare to be gaslit and be very suspicious of any half assed answers.

I have no idea why some people do that. I think it's a pathetic attempt to get you to pursue them and beg for their attention. Maybe they're trying to gain the upper hand instead of being mature and rational? Or just playing you to get validation for their own self-image issues. Honestly, who knows.

I would say act accordingly and with self respect. I had a coworker do the exact same thing to me many years ago. I decided to not play that stupid game and date someone else. She absolutely lost her shit and I couldn't care less. Their loss.

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Respectfully, if you marry her... That will be the most stupid thing you do.

What’s there to think about?

He’s basically rejected you. He does not want to take the opportunity to date you. He does not have romantic feelings for you.

Either be friends with him (acquaintances) or cut him off. Not a good idea to have sex with him again because at that point it’ll be you being used.

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Yes your cheating…

You're talking about what he wants, not what you want. The fact is that you're not sure you're into the idea. Unless you're 100% into the idea, you should say no.

Him wanting to show off your BJ skills sounds absolutely horrible.

If you’re not comfortable with that, tell him so.

And if he keeps pushing after he KNOWS you’re uncomfortable with it, then you will have to realize you’re married to someone that does not value your sexual comfort.