Well he knows why, but i don’t know how to go about it or how to get her to like me

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Everyone is different. Some people would say yes and some would say no. For me, words hold weight so I would have a problem, but there are different "love languages."

Especially the vaccine.

Well first of all, block her everywhere and her supervisor. You don’t need constant reminders of her, and nothing she can say will fix things. That’s the first step to healing.

Yes but what did it TELL you?

How did it feel to see that answer? Were you excited or bummed or what?

Establish as soon as possible that you are no contact and if she cares about you at all she will respect that.

Never question your actions. Keep her out of your mind as much as you can.

Your new mantra in life is "I deserve better than what i've been given and i'm going to fight for it" Stick to it and believe in it as much as you can.

Work hard to better yourself to be better for yourself. Be completely content and happy being you. And when the person comes along that will actually cherish your feelings you'll be glad you found so much better.

Does his brother see a doctor,takes meds, see a therapist?

Your husband is so used to be there to help his brother but now that you’re pregnant and later on when/if something happens to you (if sick with young children at home) or his children is very sick he’ll have to make a choice.

He needs therapy to help him with his priorities and also his brother has to find other support beside his brother.

Like I said, ask your BF why. She talks to him

You’re sexually invested, its cheating babe. You say you dont care if he gets flustered or whatever but its not the same as you engaging in conversations like that with another person. Maybe you havent cheated but you’re on your way to that. I say either tell him or cut contact and block that person out of respect to your bf

There is fanatsy and there is and wuite often the 2 of them dont mix. Similar scenarios pop up in relationship advicw all the time and they all gonthe same.way. one oartner had this great idea of sharing oartnwrs, have 3 somes, opeb the relationship etc. They pwp talkmthe other partner. They eventually follow thru withnthw idea and thennthe partner whos great idea it was to begingnwithngets all butt hurt because the whole thing did not go as how they envisioned it would. This is one ofnthose hoghnrisk low reward scenarios.

Another things that makes it even worse is that the other person is a friend. That closeness usuallyntend to make itnworse psychologically. Not sure why but it does. My guess is that when all its said and done he will still havento deal with the friend vs if itnwas a stanger then put of sight out of mind. There is also the issue of not being an equal trade. His friend gets a bj but he doesn't get a bj from thenfriend wife or girlfriend or whatever other trade people see as fair. People tend to feel cheated in scenarios like this. Then there is the issue of whatnof the friend finds the BJ meh! That conversation aint going to go down well.

I tell you what. Grab a dildo and a picture of his friends face. Tape the picture to the wall and go down onnthe dildo in front of your husband and let him think about that for a few days. Feel free to exagerate, maybe saybthe friends name every now and then, how good his cock is etc. If he cant handle that then forget about the real deal.

Again, high risk, low reward.

Why don't u ead?

This is not true. My narcissist exhusband definitely self harmed and berated himself but it was again just a manipulative tactic to get me to feel bad for him instead of holding him responsible for his actions.

You can love each other and it not be right for each other. It sounds like you both need to be alone and do some work on yourselves. She definitely has a bunch of shit to figure out but you should think about what kind of partner you want. Do you want to be the provider? Do you want a 50/50 household? What about income-based household? What boundaries should you set for when income flexes? How should you communicate with your partner about how dates will be done based on how well you do financially that month etc… there are tons if different people out there, you just need to know what you want/need and then you’ll be able to tell that this girl is not it lol and maybe the next one is.

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Why don't you take your reply to r/rant.

She saw me crying and I assume that’s the reason. Even before that though she always greeted me with a cold shoulder and never really tried to create conversation while I did.

Because it's the people in this damn sub

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I mean it sounds like you are both towing the line with other people. He isn't acting in a monogamous way and neither are you. It sounds like you should think about what monogamy means to you both and draw boundaries according to that.

Why not look at the answers when you posted this 3 days ago.

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/z5kdyo/comment/ixwlgx5/?context=3&sort=top

Why don't you take this garbage to r/rant.

You stop calling her your girlfriend. She was never your girlfriend.

It's funny: I'm actually a wedding photographer and I enjoy weddings no matter if I'm working or just attending as a guest or participating as a groomsman (like I did this weekend for my sister!) However, attending so many weddings has had the effect of cementing my decision to not get married. Weddings are a lot of work, they're expensive, and they can be the cause of a lot of drama. Frankly, I don't blame your boyfriend one bit.

However, it's important to tease apart the different elements. There is the legal aspect of marriage and there is the religious and/or cultural and/or social aspect of the wedding. People treat them as a package, but they're not inherently bundled. You can go to the courthouse and get married in a few minutes for minimal cost with just a one or two witnesses. Conversely, you can have elaborate commitment ceremonies that legally mean nothing. Which one are you really mourning? Your post romanticizes all of the aspects of the wedding ceremony while your boyfriend seems concerned with the potential legal fallout of divorce. Both are fair opinions and there's actually potential for middle ground.

It sounds like getting legally married is simply out of the question, but maybe you can convey to your boyfriend that some of the social constructs of the wedding ceremony are important to you. Compromises are important in a relationship and he should be able to see that denying you everthing about marriage is just as unreasonable as if you demanded that he agree to a full-blown elaborate wedding. Start somewhere simple: can he buy you a ring? Can you pick out matching bands to both wear as an outward symbol of your commitment to each other? It seems like the most baseline request. You could also discuss having a small commitment ceremony with no paperwork. There are options between nothing at all and a huge, expensive, extravagant event with hundreds of guests.

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Why not ask your BF to see why his mom is so pissed ? She would obviously tell him