When you feel something, generally it's your subconscious telling you your own perspective.

So it doesn't matter much, when you yourself feel that way.

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Send her a text message- as evidence- telling her you will not be going to stay elsewhere, that is your home, you are on the lease, and if she is uncomfortable with you there, she can go stay somewhere else. If you can, bring a friend home with you to make sure you have a witness, or at least have your phone recording when you get home.

You do not need to leave your home right away, and if she doesn't want to be around you, she can leave. You should also tell her if she doesn't want to live with you anymore, you both need to figure out how to break the lease and you will not be covering the full bills anymore. My guess is that threat alone will have her walking back her empty threats.

And if you get access to the home- the police can help you get that access since you are on the lease- then gather your most valuable items and keep them somewhere safe.

Record EVERYTHING once you are home, until she either leaves or you have a calm conversation.

Your therapist may be able to give you tips on talking to him, or even let him join in on a session.

Sounds like to me you should suggest an open relationship. But yes it's cheating. Cheating does not have to be the physical act. Cheating always starts the way you are describing. Emotionally you have cheated. Just my opinion. Best wishes.

That’s a good one. Usually my saying is if we can’t enjoy each other or I can’t enjoy you, it’s not gonna work out cause why would I want to feel the need to be with somebody else if we are together

Sorry, but you need to stop seeing her. Maybe she's working out her own distress or trying to find a way out of the relationship she's in, but she needs to do that on her own time, not by using you.

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No no, we already have an open relationship for a few months. And we met this guy this weekend. I dont get how this seems planned out. And thank you for your advice, it is really nice to get some different views on this.

Do you really think, that when we both agreed it is okay to sleep with other people, and it happens it will ruin the relationship?

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Definitely no

Maybe you could do a ceremony and rings but not the legal part. Also look into what sort of planning has to be done in terms of medical decision making and end of end of life because marriage does have really important benefits in those areas.

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What if it was a boy instead of a girl? There is such a thing as an emotional affair. Just look it up.

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that weird feeling is called guilt

If you both want to be flirting with other people, maybe you should discuss an open relationship, or at least discuss boundaries about flirting. You don't have to be monogamous. Edit: If you're hiding it from him, that's not ok. Communicate about your wants..

Oh, no no no no no. No.

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That's cool how long did it take for you guys to be friends again. Do you think this is right for you?

I don't have experience with this, but it will take a lot of time to move on from this. It's something that you've dreamed about for a really long time, and it's OK if that is a deciding factor in your relationship. It's also totally OK if not wanting to get married is a deciding factor in his. It sounds like you have made your choice, but I would suggest taking some time alone to really really think about this. Are those memories you are truly okay missing out on, or are they memories you're telling yourself are ok to miss out on because it hurts to think wanting marriage could lose you your bf?

It's an incredibly hard thing when nobody is in the wrong and you realize that you're just different. Don't make a decision you don't want for the sake of somebody else. If you're positive about not getting married, try to shift the mindset. Instead of "I wish I could have gone shopping for my wedding dress," think "I have a couple hundred/thousand dollars to spend on something else" Instead of "I don't get to share my love for my partner with others," think "I cherish what my partner and I have wherever we are".

Like I said, it's okay to take some time adjusting to this new change in your life. Just be sure that it is the right decision.

You really have to ask if sexting is cheating?

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Did you want to open it up because of the connection with this other guy? It is suspisous that you met him at a music festival and now want him to be your first for the open relationship, seems kinda planned out. Trapped how? Im letting you know this wont ruin the open relationship part of your relationship, sleeping with other people will ruin the entire relationship, you will both he single if you go through with this.