It sounds like you are on the fence. If you are on the fence, I would not do it. Maybe you are better off as a couple going to a place where you can watch other people do these sorts of things first and see if you like the idea of watching people and then maybe the idea of you being watched yourselves.

If you feel the need to hide a person and your activities from your partner... you've answered your own question. He may be bothered, or entirely not fazed at all. "Cheating" is subjective and there's no clear defining line.

that kinda makes sense to me tbh, but in my current situation things have continued to be easy. i just feel like i’ve begun to lose interest and that i feel like i deserve better than it? maybe it’s like i don’t know if i wanna give my all to this person. because i would if i was truly fully attracted to them. and i keep doubting my attraction to them

It’s a tough position. You will never get over your feelings if you are still seeing each other. It’s been a few months so his feelings aren’t likely to change, and definitely won’t change if you just keep doing what your doing because he’s getting what he wants now. You either live with these feelings knowing nothing will ever come from it, or break it off and once your feelings are gone you can try being friends again….

You’re cheating. If you were sexting with a guy, you’d consider it cheating right ?

I don't remember the last time I ever rose my voice in my home or anywhere. I have a firm grasp over my emotions. I really don't want to leave her, I really care about her, that's why I keep doing everything she asks for.

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This is a terrible idea. You would be running the risk that he regrets it and then can’t look at you the same. Fantasy does not always translate well to reality.

But if you are going to do it, for the sake of your marriage, you might want to go to a sex therapist together first so you can discuss boundaries and all the post-bj feelings that could come up.

You should 100% stop sleeping with him if you've caught feelings and he hasn't. Whether you think you can be okay being friends is really a call that only you can make, but taking a week or two to not see him at all and really think it over would probably be wise.

We are both eachothers first everything, and i sometimes felt trapped. For us our relationship is more than just sex. I know that it is risky, we made the rule that if it does not work out it is also a result, and we stop with the open relationship. we are both really sober about these things... the guy i just met at a musicfestival where i was with my boyfriend, and it clicked very well, and has nothing to do with the opening, we met after this decision

You dont need to cut them out of your life altogether. But you def need to for a while. Until you feel good with chilling again and no hookup and just friends. Whenever you can picture them with someone else and you feel nothing, thats when it will be okay again. (Thats my rule anyway )

I understand tho. It sucks dude and im sorry you have to go thru this. But it will all be okay. Just not right away.

I'm very good friends with them & have "hooked up" a few times. They both would like more of a committed relationship but I'm not in a position for a relationship right now. We still talk or text at least once a week.

Ive exactly the same issue, but I’m the guy in this story. I started dating this girl two months back and it’s been wonderful. She’s really been sweet to me and it feels like she really fits with me. We spend the whole weekend last weekend and we the two first days were wonderful. Like we’re really in love. The last day however was very different. It’s like she doesn’t even wanted to be with me. She said she’s losing interest and it’s not because of me or anything i do, but only because of her feelings. I’m really clueless. I guess it’s just how it goes.

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Get a new one.

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OH MY GOSH THANK YOU OH SO MUCH

not necessarily guilty it’s more just a weird feeling

To me it sounds like cheating

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You feel guilty for a reason right?