Never give anyone you're not dating relationship time and energy. Trying to get with another man's fling is bad idea ethically and it could lead to violence.

Then it's clear y'all are fundamentally incompatible and it's time for y'all to go your separate ways

he is not a man who should be in a relationship. ever. leave him and find someone who will at least cuddle you.. how can someone live without that forever?

Say "oh, same here," then nothing else. If he freaks out at you for saying that, you know he's doing it to keep you insecure.

Then you can say "well, I don't want to keep you away from your other options," and then cut him loose.

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Sorry, thought I stated in my post that I have told him I’m unhappy and have been for months. He refuses to have a conversation about it and always tells me we’ll talk about it later.

You’ll have to compromise this year, her family are travelling thousands of miles and spending a fuck tonne of money to come and spend Christmas with you, your family are going to have to make adjustments to their traditions.

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The trick isn’t to frame it as an accusation or in a way that would put her on the defensive.

Just say something like “Hey, I really like you and what we have going on, you’re the only person I’m with. Am I the only one you’re with? I’d really like to make this official/exclusive if we’re on the same page.”

It would be wrong for you to be upset if you haven’t had the exclusive talk, though I can’t say I wouldn’t be upset either.

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Statements like that will lead to an argument. If you have to say something, it should be about yourself and how you're feeling, not her or how she's treating you.

"Honestly, I just don't feel like we're a good fit anymore and don't want to continue pursuing anything. I wish you the best of luck." Then promptly block.

This is a good advice! Thanks 🤍

Sounds like he is, right you can't take criticism.

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As stated in my post, he Hasn’t had sex with me in months.

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No, obviously you create a hidden folder, store them all there and then never view them again.

Makes no damn sense OP saved them in a saved folder if her intention was to never watch them again. Lmfao.

Both of you are morons lmao

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I thought so too, but apparently people like u/thebooksqueen thinks shit like that is normal to keep even when having a new partner.

The exploration is true. He did snoop. And she has these videos of doing stuff she did not want to do with him. So they both have got some explaining to do. Is she really into him or not?

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Stuff off.

The whole situation is weird. I don't think the issue here is you keeping the photos or videos (as some people are saying), although you should have deleted it, to show respect to your previous partners and to your new partner. But the fact that he snooped and saw this, sent the videos to himself (for what? That's really fucked up and not normal), and was guilt tripping you for sex are all major red flags.