Before you leave for work get a copy of your lease I had a similar situation and almost went to jail because my ex told the police that I was stalking her and I didn't live there luckily my neighbors called the property manager and they straightened it out but I'll never forget that night

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Not at the 9 month mark. When things go to hell (like this), it’s much more difficult to break up and walk away than it would otherwise be.

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For me it's when I have at least 90% confidence that I can do better. It's never really about what you dislike about the person, it's about the probability that you can walk back into the dating market and be assured that you will pull a better deal rather quickly. There is no point in looking for a minor improvement, it's just not worth redoing all the time and effort it takes to connect just to get a minor upgrade. So you have to be certain that you're working with absolute awful conditions that you know you're not going to have trouble pulling better before you leave what you've already worked for.

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Okay so I just read the rest of your post. Sounds to me like she's got a damn chip on her shoulder. If you're both on the lease and you're the one paying all of the rent, which by the way hopefully you do it online or keep your money order receipts because you can prove that in court she has absolutely no right to fucking kick you out.

When they start feeling like a dreadful chore.

It's not anything illegal which is good, it's a bit strange and maybe worth a conversation if you feel so strongly about it.

BUT, it's just an anime cartoon, there are a lot of people who like the pornographic version of anime, not my thing but to each their own. It's a big jump to assume from this that he is attracted to actual underage people. An accusation like that could ruin a life. So don't just throw it out there on a hunch

Millions of people watch hentai, the porn version of anime. The vast majority are not actually interested in school children, millions of people watch porn where women role play as school girls, again, it's not illegal and the majority wouldn't actually engage with someone underage. We don't even know for sure if he was thinking of the show when he was masturbating, it could have just been on in the background

If you bring it up he'll probably get very defensive, this doesn't prove anything though. If you were accused of being attracted to children when you aren't you probably would not respond very calmly, it's not something anyone wants to be linked with, and if you were, then you respond in a similar way but it would be lies to try get away with it.

So, in your position I'd try to look in his search history, or his bookmarks, look at who he follows on media platforms maybe. If everything seems OK then I'd leave it there, if not, obviously report to the necessary authorities, don't tell him anything as he will have time to get rid of evidence if you do

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hahahaha he really is

Can you share some examples?

We would be able to tell you if that is reasonable or controlling.

But generically speaking, besides the big no-nos (cheating/flirting).

This a a fair baseline:

• I have these boundaries about myself that you want to respect. Healthy
• I have this boundary that I am placing on you that dedicates your behavior. Bad.

A boundary is usually about refusing to accept poor behavior from another - like, no cheating.

Control is about making someone else do something to your standards - like, dress the way I want you to, clean the house to my specifications.

Why doesn’t he defend you? If my parents had said that about my wife I woulda told them to enjoy the rest of their lives together

he's a really sweet and caring person but the problem is he's just lazy (i feel bad for calling him that but he is lol) he wants to play games all night and sleep all day. but when i see him in person he's completely different, he wakes me up at 9am every morning so we have more time to hang out and he doesnt want to touch video games because we could play together anytime. our plan is to live together in 2 years when im done with school and i really really want to so im trying really hard to help him. but yeah if he keeps doing this its not gonna work out as much as i hate to say it

also sometimes he jokes about in the future im gonna get a big job and pay for everything while he stays home and keeps the house clean. i dont want to live like that and im starting to think its not a joke lol......

Then she Can't kick You out

Are you trying to get to a healthy weight? Because if you are he is bringing up a valid point, you need a balanced diet and a good amount of protein. Carbs are just sugar. I know for me if I don’t eat enough protein and just carbs I get tired way quicker

How do you know what show it is just by walking in? Sure it wasn't anime porn?

You live there and she can't prohibit you from entering your house. Apartment manager or the police will get you into your house. If she won't let you in call the police and they will explain the law to her.

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Okay, do you want to keep going through that over and over?