It's pretty simple: accept your gf for who she is, or leave because you would rather be with someone else. Both of these are valid life choices, its only if you try to do both that it becomes wrong. Leaving would be kind of shallow, and you might regret it, but relationships are voluntary.

I would examine the contradiction between "I love her" and "I really wanna fuck this other girl." One of those is false. (I am not talking about poly people, they exist -- but they enter relationships with that expectation not peek over the fence for the ass on the other side.)

Keep going. The right woman and the happy ending won't just fall from the sky unfortunately. It will happen, when? Who knows-that's the adventure. Imagine how great you'll feel when the right woman comes along-she's out there, just keep looking.

Good luck

Certainly. I think the relationships you’ve thrown out as anecdotes simply won’t work in the long run. And taking back a cheater is 99% of the time a mistake. Because cheaters don’t stop cheating.

>My question is how do I know what the right decision is ? I don’t wanna regret it at the end. Any advice ?

Decide what you would regret more. There is no right decision, there's only the question of what is right for you.

In my opinion, sex is just sex: having a partner that is slightly more aesthetically pleasing doesn't make a big difference. That said, this is both my opinion and something I've learned through personal experience. Without wishing to sound callous, it may be possible that you can't learn this lesson unless you also learn it by experience. It may be the best path for you to throw away a functional relationship in search of a big booty, and then regret it, because then at least you know where your priorities are.

And so ultimately that's my advice to you: whatever it is you decide to do, make sure you learn from it.

I’m calling you an ass. This attitude towards people is not on. Please don’t objectify both of these people like that.

Yeah when you put it like that I see your point

The main thing I got out of all of this? You need to leave Nate, the physically abusive boyfriend who humiliated you at Thanksgiving. Why are you still with him?

Keeping far away from your toxic mother is also a good plan.

I don't necessarily have to join the peace corps but it is part of my life's dream. It's something Ive worked hard to make a possibility for myself, and I know I would regret it if I didn't go. He works here full time in the medical field. Him coming with me isn't something that's been discussed yet, but maybe I'll mention it and see where that goes. My biggest issue with waiting and long distance is my need for physical affection. Physical touch is my love language and if I know there's somebody I love back home that I can't be with in that way it would hurt me constantly and deeply. Thank you for your advice this helps <3

You don't love your gf if you having second and sexual feelings for another girl. My advise make you peace or dumb your gf and go have fun but dont be a cheater.

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Just never thought about it at the time till now, no real point for me, just leave um. No reason for me to go on a dating site and go through the hassle to figure out login credentials to delete the account, then the wife might see i tried signing into such sites, no reason for me to delete web history neither.

I’m Christian and that’s what I believed was right, but I recognized it would be tough. It is only recently when I felt like I shouldn’t be ashamed to say I wanted to explore.

Please don’t insult the LGBT+ community by thinking they are less desperate and more likely to want to date you. Just don’t date at all.

Asking that many girls out is part of your problem. Women want to date people who like them, not people who like the idea of them. Reflect on what you’re looking for and don’t jump from crush to crush so fast.

Also lots of people don’t have a committed relationship at your age

I failed when I tried... stopped trying and fall into a relationship every time.

Just think about this... if you roll up and a girl seems to be desperate. how do you feel? They can feel it - and the lack of confidence - and react accordingly. I know because I've felt that response.

Yet if I go out and hang out with friends in a comfortable situation? Playing games or say on a trip somewhere... having fun without trying to impress anyone? Just being my normal goofy self? Somehow I impress someone by not trying to impress. If that makes sense lol.

My suggestion? Find a hobby and do it without stressing. Something that involves people your age range that you'll be interested in. Go in without expectations and maybe you'll meet someone... or you'll have fun playing chess/going to the beach/playing in a band/doing d&d/etc.

Thank you. It doesn't work out now the whole work area is uncomfortable because you screwed somebody. Have people not wanting to work with you or them. Work is for working. If you want to be with somebody from your job get a new job or a new poison at a different area to not mess up the work environment.

I hope he doesn't take you back. If he's dumb enough to do it, then good for you.

I’d be more worried about you subconsciously wanting this other guy by your story and now your other comments. It wouldn’t surprise me if you start entertaining this other guy at some point because he wants to fill the voids your bf isn’t…

Yeah don’t cheat on your gf.

It kinda does. Like I said I love my girlfriend, she is really important to me but I’m starting to prefer bigger asses and this girl I’m talking to has one. I don’t know what to do.

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Sounds like that's the real problem, the boyfriend just really doesn't care

Well this post does make you an ass but a big or small one? Does it matter?

It's time to break up.

There’s a good chance part of this is just you’re sexually frustrated, again.

Waiting for marriage comes with a real risk of finding out you’re not sexually compatible. If that risk isn’t worth whatever benefits you see in waiting for marriage, you’re not compatible.