Why in the world would you want to spend the rest of your life with an unemployed moocher who uses your hard earned savings to buy guns and toys?

You aren’t in love; you are addicted to him and afraid to be alone.

Then why don't you believe him

I can't imagine she would invite you to turn up whenever you want if she had an affair in mind. She'd make sure it was only when her husband was out, surely?

That said, if you're uncomfortable with it you don't have to visit.

I don’t have any evidence to say he’s not telling the truth

Yeah, I'd just move on. I know I probably forgot to delete some apps after being with my partner.

Hell, even after deleting them, I still get spam emails from those sites. It's annoying as fuck.

What evidence do you have that he's not telling the truth?

The man provides in a committed relationship.

She's taking advantage of you, and giving nothing in return that's worth the cost.

Leave. Set yourself straight. Focus on your goals, be better for yourself

He shouldn't be using money on things like pistols. I wouldn't even let him in my house if he was unemployed and needed two pistols for some reason.

That aside, dude needs a tall glass of reality. You get whatever job you can, then you get choosy while you are earning money. I can't tell you how many people "hold out" for months or even years because they are looking for the perfect job. I wouldn't care what he was doing as long as he was doing something. Helping you out with no additional income and on his own terms is not going to cut it.

Should he be worried?

What are you asking?

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If you are such a sexual person, why did you agree to celibacy?

Sexual compatibility is very important in a marriage, you should try it before you buy it.

I think you are screwed with this girl. Maybe you can change the rules of engagement, but whether she agrees or not I have no idea. May as well try.

Next girl don't do something that goes against your base instincts

I dont think its weird that your bf doesnt care. He should care if you cheat but should expect other people will be attracted to you.

I dont really think your coworker did anything that is clearly flirting. Like maybe it is but maybe its not

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Yes.

Just split up now so she can be with someone that doesn’t cheat and isn’t so lost in his fantasies that he’s prepared to tank a relationship with someone he loves so that he can dip his wick in multiple people.

Tell him to get a job...any job...and not a job that's convenient for him...times are tough and you need help. What I did when I was in your situation...I started looking for jobs for my boyfriend...and texting him the ads and pushed him to go to work without nagging and it worked. He's probably in a slump and needs a push.

Its hard to say. Does her partner act this way? Does she act this way around them? For all we know they could be swingers!

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I usually stay for a night myself, and he doesn't have much going on that can't be solved from the computer. He only leaves the house when we go out or shopping. So I guess the first part of your comment makes more sense. Thank you!

So........what advice did you want?

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I wouldn't consider it a red flag just yet. My partner's uncle is the same way and I don't think he's being malicious.

Maybe she thinks you're really poor?

Did you move to a new area recently? This is very culture-dependent.

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